I prayed for a long time for the right woman... She is wonderful... beautiful, intelligent, professional, sensitive, feeling, caring,... I could go on and on. Our time together has been limited… although we have had unprotected sex. Last night, she told me she had herpes. She has dealt with it for 20 + years.
She talked to her doctor who looked on their physician website for the most up to date data. Transmission occurs in about 10% of the population. Greater tendency to transmit if the male has it (17 %) vs. the female (4 %). What does this mean? During an outbreak? On average? Anyway…
She has a couple of outbreaks per year. Her doctor is phoning in an RX to take when she feels an outbreak coming on. Would Valtrex help reduce transmission?
Her doctor told her: Typical breakouts last about 7 days. The time when one can transmit is during the "sloughing" period which occurs right before the actual breakout. My girlfriend tells me this is the time when she feels a tingly sensation, pain in the groin area, flu-like symptoms. I have read about asymptomatic transmission…. Her “intuition” probably wouldn’t help then!
I’m not crazy about wearing a condom for the rest of my sex life… although I know an outbreak is not a good time to chance it. If we abstain during the sloughing and outbreak times, what are the chances I will contract this? Her ex-husband never contracted it (supposedly, but I understand that outbreaks don’t necessarily have to occur). I really care about this woman, but she and I have both noticed a little black cloud over my head since she has told me. We cannot continue a relationship with reservations. I have to get past this or walk… I’ve gone this long without it… I don’t really want it now, but what are the chances that the next one won’t have the same thing, either obviously or asymptomatic…
I’m just a bit overwhelmed! Any guidance will be appreciated.