Comments both about your oral HSV and your genital lesion.
Oral HSV first. The recurrences you experienced after you stopped valacyclovir- were they all on your gums and has starting the valacyclovir helped. The reason I as is that recurrent oral HSV is more typically involving the lips than gums. Lesions on the gums are more likely to be aphous ulcers which don't respond very well to antiviral therapy.
As for your genital lesion, it is most unlikely that this is HSV-2. Here are the reasons I say this:
1. Most exposure to infected partners do not lead to infection.
2. Your lesion appeared 21 days following exposure- it would be most unusual for HSV to do this.
3. The lesion lasted only 7 days, most initial HSV lasts longer
4. You were on valacyclovir which, as least in theory (there has never been a study) would be expected to prevent HSV acquisition.
Now that the lesion has healed, there is not much to do diagnostically. Far too early for a blood test. Should it recur I would suggest getting a culture or PCRT test performed on it sa soon as possible
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Hope these comments are helpful to you. EWH
You say "most exposure to infected partners do not lead to infection"? I don't think I am clear on that statement.
Also, if 21 days is an unusually long incubation time... How long is an average time to symptoms after exposure?
I am at day 8 now with the... I'll call it "lesion" nearly healed completely. Probably one more day. But again, never fluid filled or raised or "itchy"...
Thanks again
Most exposures to infected partners does not lead to infection meands that most peole who have sex with partners who have herpes do not get infected.
Symptoms typically present in 4-10 days following exposure
I continue to doubt that this is HSV. EWH