~3 mo. ago, condom broke during vaginal sex with a girl friend I slept with for the first time; didn't realize so we completed the act; she doesn't know if she has HIV. I am incredibly scared--my body is telling me I have HIV, my mind tells me it's extremely unlikely, so I want to know your thoughts.
2 days later, I got flu-like symptoms for ~10 days; roommate had similar symptoms for 3 days, so I didn't worry, then read about ARS and stresses. 6 weeks post exposure (mid-aug), developed a very mild but constant sore throat that didn't go away. 2 wks later, got a sore back of tongue with bumps, white film (worried it's thrush), and constant mucus in throat. Dr. said not thrush, probably sinuses, and gave antibiotics & blood test of normal white count but I'm still sick.
When I look at stats, I'm less worried. I'm a non-poor white 23-year old hetero non-IDU male and slept with a non-poor white 23-year old non IDU girl. Not to say that makes me immune or anything, but:
-Approx. 450 white heteros / year in the US get HIV at all (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/surveillance/resources/reports/2008report/table3a.htm), and probably only about 50 20-24 year old ones (% diagnoses for 20-24 yr olds * 450).
-Out of those 50, probably 1/3 are poor, since whites in high poverty areas are ~4X as likely to have HIV (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/surveillance/resources/other/pdf/poverty_poster.pdf) and ~10% of white people live below the poverty line.
-Of the remaining 30, I bet that the majority (25?) got HIV from a regular partner, given the low likelihood of transmission per act
-Some of the remaining 5 have to be anal sex, prostitutes, men with IDUs, uncircumcised men with other STDs already etc.
-Odds of having thrush/sinus infection right after ARS (rather than 10 yr later) are very low (10%?)--I should be symptom free now
-So a case like mine becoming HIV+ and displaying my symptoms has to happen like once every few years.
So how stressed should I be?