Hello
I'm a 27 years old Italian straight guy living in London, UK.
In the last 6 weeks I have been dating an older woman (45) on a casual relationship basis.
I had sex with her 5/6 times and I have always used condoms for both vaginal and anal sex.
However I didn't use protections for all the other "safer" activities.
Now I have a few questions:
1- Oral sex: I know it's safe to receive it without a condom, however one of the latest times we had sex, she performed it in a few stange ways: firstly she filled her mouth with champagne immidiately before going down on me so she gave me oral with her mouth filled of it. Then she did the same thing with some mints instead of champagne in her mouth. Do those factors (especially champagne) improve somehow the risk of transmitting the virus through oral?
2- She wanted to use a sex toy on me (a thin but long one). I washed it at the beginning of the night. Later she used it to penetrate my anus for a few minutes, but I really can't remember if she used it on herself as well (vagina and anus) a few minutes before. In case she did and so it hasn't been washed before using it on me, could this have been a risky activity?
3- Also, I wanted to know if shaving my pubic area a few hours before the intercourse, being this still irritated, could this pose a risk when the vaginal fluid gets in contact with the shaved area?
4- Both the last two times I met her, when I came back home I noticed there was a red sore (without any cut though) on my penis, on the sensitive part about half inch from where the gland ends. This, after having a shower, became less irritated hence less visible.
Could this sore have been a risk factor during oral sex?
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