See this thread from a couple of weeks ago:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/STD/messages/4153.html My reply clearly applies.
You describe no symptoms that suggest STD; not everything that feels wrong with the genitals is due to STD, and you have seen several docs and had several tests, who cannot find any STD. Prostatitis is often a 'wastebasket' diagnosis, i.e. a name put on a problem that has no other clear explanation. It is not an STD, and most cases are not due to infection at all and therefore do not clear up on antibiotics.
'Can this be some type of STD that they are not picking up on?' No.
'Is this a mild form of Herpes??? - can I get herpes from a B.J????' HSV can be acquired from oral sex, but herpes definitely is not your problem.
'What other STDs could I have gotten from getting a B.J.?' None that could cause the symptoms you describe.
'DO I HAVE AN STD or is it just my guilt for doing what I did that is making me think I have an STD???' You have no STD. As I have said many times on this forum, whenever a person suspects guilt or other emotional/psychological explanation for his symptoms, he is almost always right, especially when 'this situation is on my mind every day'.
'This IS DEFINETLY NOT FOCALIZED ANXIETY!!!' I disagree. Your defensive use of online shouting (capital letters) is further evidence. You need to ask your provider to recommend referral for psychological assessment, which might lead to counseling. I suggest it out of compassion, not criticism.
Read the thread I suggested above, then move on. There is no point in continuing any discussion here. I won't have any further replies.
Good luck-- HHH, MD