Thanks for your help and keep up the great work on this forum. It's an excellent source of information.
As you say yourself, "both are highly unlikely". Chlamydia rarely causes oral infection at all. Read my comments above. I am convinced that none of your symptoms has anything at all to do with the sexual exposure you are concerned about. You can't talk me into it!
Thanks. you're right, the only contact was cunnilingus without even the mutual masturbation, although as you say that is irrelevant
My specific concern was two fold:
1) getting gonorrhoea or claymitia in the throat from the cunnilingus
2) Getting gonorrhoea or claymitia in the eye from touching her vagina and then touching my eye
Sounds like both are highly unlikely and I like your 30 year sample size...
Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question. I'm happy to confirm what you already know: this was an exceedingly low risk sexual encounter.
If I correctly understand, your only exposures were cunnilingus, i.e. you had oral contact with your partner's genital area, plus mutual masturbation. For sure you can forget about the latter. STDs are never transmitted by hand-genital contact. Cunnilingus is also very low risk. Some data suggest oral gonorrhea has been acquired that way, but very, very rarely. There are theoretical risks for oral herpes due to HSV-2 and for syphilis, but in my 35 years in the STD business I have never seen either of these in this circumstance.
Your symptoms are typical for many common cold viruses; it isn't rare for conjunctivitis (eye infection) to accompany or follow a viral sore throat. You may well have caught a cold from your partner, especially if kissing was involved -- but that doesn't make it an STD. However, since your son had a similar problem, it is most likely you caught your virus in the household. As you undoubtedly know, the most common way adults get respiratory viruses and colds is from their kids.
To your specific questions:
1) You should not be at all worried.
2) Most infections, including most STDs, clear up on their own without treatment. Whether your symptoms clear rapidly, slowly, or not at all has absolutely no relationship the your STD risk, which remains zero. Same for your son.
3) Even if you had an oral STD, you are correct: you could not pass it by genital intercourse.
4) No STDs, of the eye or any other body part, are spread to children except by sexual abuse.
If your or your son's eye symptoms don't clear up on their own in the next week or so, see a doctor. But you needn't be at all worried about STDs.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD