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[worried300]

Hi DR. I have a question.
I had sex with the girl I know. We first had sex
protected with a condon which contained no spermicide.
However I have exzema and was usine Elocon cream on my
penis for exzema spots. I was also using Stud 100 on
my penis(contains Lidocain Base USP 9.6%).The condom
got dry and bruised my penis severly.It got better
after a week or so, but since after we had a few
nights of unprotected sex. Can the brusing and
chemicals I was using cause an infection like this in the penis?
After 2-3 months I noticed that there was a small
hardly noticed discharge, cloudy, odourless.& got the
flu around that same time.At that time I also used Veet cream, its removes unwated hair, but didn't notice that it was not suppose to be used in pubic area. I did get a chemical burn from it on the scrotum, & it is possible some did get into my penis. Had a sore throat, with a
lump appearing under my right ear, which grew larger
and was painful. It is now gone, but a slight node
remains & is not painful.
My girlfriend is also pregnant & we had unprotected
sex, 2 weeks after I had the bruising,it is not close
to 4 months and she got the flu with soar throat and a painful lump on the right side of her neck. She has also been to the doctor for pain below her stomach, but after examination he told her it
was a water inefection and nothing more. He then gave her antiboitics. He also took
samples of her urine for further teste and also from her private area.
I am having many sleepless nights, can't eat and dont
know what to do.
Can U bring some light to my enquiry.

[worried300]

Thanks again Dr. This testing did include HVI, STD, etc etc, as stated on the document, because she had to confirm & sign for the HIV test. This was actually her first initial testing when she become pregnant. She does have a copy of the results which shows she was tested for all the above. Do you think that within 2-3 weeks chlamydia would have been recognised in the uring within that time. We are going back to the dr on the next week or so fro results from the swab test & urine for the urine infection. I do intend in in leveling with her as well.

[worried300]

Thanks for your reply Dr.
I forgot to mentioned another thing, 2 weeks after unprotected sex with the other girl, I did have sex with my girlfriend. However, 2-3 weeks after we did have sex she had an appointment with her Dr. and he gave her clean bill of health. Urine was tested etc, blood work, etc...due to her pregnancy and all was well. Its now close to 2 months Now we had sex unprotected again (my girlfriend) On the saturday afternoon and the following day she was complaining with stomach pain,and she went to see the DR, which is when they informed her that she had a Urine Infection. I am unsure if signs of an an STD can manifest so quickly.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

If your partner's STD tests were done before she was treated for her urinary tract infection, and the tests were negative, you can be sure she didn't have an STD and probably you don't either.  But if she was tested after receiving antibiotics, the negative gonorrhea and chlamydia tests might not be valid.  To be safe and protect both your health and hers, you should be tested.

HHH, MD

[worried300]

Sorry Worried AGAIN!!!
She slo had medicals done, including text for all STD's 2 weeks after contact with me? would the test find anything?

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Even if you girlfriend's provider checks all patients for STD, testing isn't done at every visit, so her "clean bill of health" might not have included STD testing.  It still sounds quite possible you acquired chlamydia or gonorrhea from your casual partner and might have infected your girlfriend.  All 3 of you need to be tested--soon.  You're going to need to level with your girlfriend about why she needs to be tested.

HHH, MD

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

The only symptoms you describe that could possible be due to an STD is your "small hardly noticed discharge" and your partner's abdominal pain and "water infection", by which you presumably mean urinary tract infection.  The same symptoms as urinary infection often occur due to common STDs.  Your partner''s doctor probably tested her for common STDs, like chlamydia and gonorrhea; such testing is done routinely (or should be!) in all pregnant women.  But make sure she was tested for them, and get tested yourself.

None of the rest of your problems (penile rash or bruise, sore throat, sleeplessness, etc) suggests an STD.  But many of your symptoms and apparent sense of hopelessness ("I don't know what to do") are classical for depression or other emotional problem.  See a health care provider who can both check you for STDs and address those symptoms.

Best wishes--  HHH, MD