This has been an exceptionally challenging time with lots of stress from deaths where I have been the primary caregiver to a parent. I have been happily married for 12 years; I have been faithful the entire time up until the last 18 months. In the last year I have received erotic massages (4-5 times). I have never had intercourse, only manual stimulation. In the last 10 days, during an alcohol binge, I received protected oral and vaginal sex during a one night stand. I immediately knew I'd crossed a significant line and I became very worried about STDs and possibly infecting my wife. I am wracked by guilt and I want to confess to my wife about this my behavior, but I want to be sure of my medical situation. 5 days ago, I had a full panel of STD tests performed at a clinic and I was negative for everything including HSV1 but a positive low (1.2) reading for HSV2 - I believe the test was a Herpes 1&2 IgG ELISA. I received the results via phone. Based on what I have read, this might either be a false positive test, or my infection may be from a long ago. To my knowledge, I have never been tested for STDs before, although I have regular physicals and life insurance medical tests, so they might be included. I also do not believe my wife has been tested for STDs, although she might have been during the pregnancies for our children. We have oral and vaginal sex for 14 years and we have both been entirely asymptomatic for STDs. I have abstained from sex with her since my recent infidelity and I would like to re-test for HSV2 to confirm the results. Again, We each had numerous sexual partners before we were married. I do not want to subject her to testing unnecessarily, but I have a couple of questions.
- Is HSV tested for normally in physicals, insurance exams or pregnancy testing?
- It seems unlikely, but would my most recent encounter have caused this positive test?
- What is the appropriate confirming test? Biokit and WB? Would another IGg test be helpful?