Am i worrying for nothing?

[bach42g]

Hi doctors, i am from Singapore  Here is my problem,  I was in Shanghai last week for business. i went to a authentic Chinese massage parlour. The female masseur massage me with oil. everything was very normal.. However, towards the end when she was massaging/rubbing with oil on my inner thigh & brush through my groin sometimes, she didn't used much strength, its just rubbing oil on my inner thigh, brushing through my groin area, knee etc. Well being a man, i naturally felt aroused & my penis was erected after a short while BUT without any ill intentions in mind. The next thing i know was i actually ejaculated into the DISPOSABLE BOXER shorts that i was wearing RIGHT FROM THE START and THROUGHOUT provided by them. I quickly used the towel that was covering my upper body to cover my private part (i was still wearing the disposable boxer short with my sperm on it) & told her to stop & i rush quickly to the toilet to wash up. There are absolutely nothing else. She was fully dressed. I did not touch her at all. No HJ, **, no penetrative sexual intercourse at all. Its just an accident.

I told my wife about the incident & she just laughed it off & said its nothing & probably because i have not been ejaculating for the pass 2 weeks before i set off to Shanghai, that's why i feel easily aroused when the masseur was massaging my inner thigh. I also went to my family doctor & my dermatologist and both of them told me its was really nothing to worry about at all and its was a ZERO risk incident. No Testing require.

My questions are, 1) Do i need to worry about any HIV/STD virus/germs/bacterial that are on the DISPOSABLE BOXER SHORT that i was wearing & that towel that i used to cover my private part 2) Basically, if there were NO HJ,** & NO penetrative sexual intercourse involve right, i should not worry about the anything right? The masseur did not even touched my scrotum & penis with her bare hands. 3) is massage safe?? Can i catch anything from the massage place?

[bach42g]

Hi Dr,

I am so sorry if you are upset about me. I have no doubts in you, just wanted to clear my head once & for all.

Really appreciate your advise & my apology once again .

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

What in heaven's name does it matter if the shorts are disposable (in an internet shout, all caps!) matter?  Or if they were used before??  You are at risk for nothing.  You came here for reassurance.  I gave it, but you're arguing; it's as if you hope I'm wrong.  I don't have time for this.  Suck it up and move on.  

[bach42g]

Doc, really appreciate if you could answer my last question. I just want to put this stupid incident behind.

Thank you very much.

[bach42g]

Hi Dr HHH,

Thank you very much for your speedy reply:) . I was away for awhile. I would like to ask Just 1 last question.

My worries are actually on the disposable boxer short. i knew its brand new when i wore it during massage however when i was erected, the boxer rubbed against my penis until i ejeculated. Any risks of contracting any STDs IF let say the boxer wasn’t brand new & my penis was rubbing against it? Also the towel that i used to cover my private part. I know u said that STDs can't transmit through things like towel, disposable boxer but what are the possibilities? Have you ever saw a case where STDs?HIV are being transmitted by towels, disposable boxer?

I know sometimes my mind is playing tricks on me, always thinking that am i at risk for STDs like Gonorrhea, Chlamidia etc…OR Worse HIV!!



Sorry for being long winded & Really appreciate your time.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

See my reply above.

[bach42g]

Sorry,

I mean no Handjob , no ORAL & no sexual intercourse at all.

I don't know why after i typed the post become NO HJ(handjob), **(*******) ??

once again , sorry to post on the comment again.

[bach42g]

Hi Doctors,

in my post ealier, i realize that i actually wanted to type NO HJ(handjob), **(*******).. i don't know why it appeared as No HJ, **.

Sorry for the trouble & appreciate.

Thanks.

[bach42g]

Hi Doctors,
I forget to say that, when the masseur was massaging my inner thigh right, the DISPOSABLE BOXER shorts was sort of rubbing on my penis lightly, that's why i ejeculated.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the forum.

Based on reading all the information you provide, including the follow-up comments (below), the answer to your question as posed in the title -- "Am I worrying for nothing?" -- is yes, that is exactly what you are doing.

STD transmission and risks aren't very complicated.  In heterosexual realtions, if a bare penis (i.e no condom) doesn't enter another person's vagina, rectum, or mouth, there is little or no risk of any STD.  No STDs are transmitted by massage or through clothing.  Your wife is a wise person to "laugh it off".  That is what I recommend for you as well.  No testing is necessary and you can safely continue unprotected sex with your wife.  (And by the way, treat your wife very well.  She sounds like a treasure!)

I hope this helps.  Best wishes--  HHH, MD