I'm not convinced your pubic area lesions were herpetic. The blood test shows you have HSV-2, but you might have asymptomatic herpes plus folliculitis unrelated to HSV. The way to know is a culture for HSV when you have a new outbreak.
1) At least half of all normal people have easily felt small lymph nodes in the groin. Regardless of the cause of the original inflammation, repeated inflammation is common, because minor trauma and/or infections of the legs and feet are virtually a daily or weekly occurrence in most people (e.g., every stub of a a toe, pimples, nicks the skin when cutting toenails, etc). The nodes gradually become scarred and stay slightly enlarged. Whether your residual nodes are due specifically to herpes or folliculitis, I cannot say. But nontender, pea-sized nodes definitely do not suggest active infection of any kind. The aching probably is more psychogenic than anythings else, not evidence of active inflammation. In other words, this sounds entirely normal.
2,3) Your doc is right. You don't need a specialist. It would be malpractice to remove them surgically.
4) Quackery. I know of no traditionally trained virologist, STD expert, or infectious disease specialist who believe in it.
Bottom line: If/when the pubic lesions reappear, get examined within a day or two for a herpes culture. Also keep a lookout for more typical herpes recurrences, e.g. on the penis. Be sure you inform all your sex partners that you have genital herpes and take precautions to protect them.
Happy holidays-- HHH, MD