Herpes fear

[worried/nervous]

Let me begin by thanking you so much for your service.  Your forum has really been the only source for help the past few weeks as I have been too embarrassed and nervous to go to anyone else.

A little over seven weeks ago, I received unprotected oral sex from a female worker at a high-priced Korean establishment in Seoul, Korea that caters to businessmen.  The women basically sing karaoke and then perform oral sex at the end of the night.  They do not have intercourse.

Being an idiot, I let one of the female workers perform unprotected oral sex on me.  Prior to giving me oral, she cleaned my penis (uncircumsized) and then wrapped a small hand towel around the base of my penis.  She then gave me oral sex for about 3-5 minutes before I ejaculated (she pulled my penis out of her mouth).  She then wiped me clean with the hand towel wrapped around my penis.

I did not notice any cold sores or anything, but of course I cannot be certain.  Immediately after this encounter, I asked one of the

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

The symptoms you describe clearly are not due to herpes, which does not cause faint red bumps.  And if it was herpes, with 2 days of onset the lesions would have developed into vesicles (blisters), pustules (pimple-like), or open sores.  In addition, as you say yourself, the incubation period is too long.  Initial herpes would have shown up within 3 weeks (almost always within 5 days).  Whatever you have--and it might be nothing more than a variation on normal skin--it didn't come from the sexual exposure you describe.

From what you say, I doubt you have anything that could possibly harm your wife.  However, I never guarantee that someone is or is not infected with anything.  If you are concerned, you need to see a health care provider, such as a dermatologist.

Good luck-- HHH, MD

[who_is_this]

I KNEW karaoke would lead to no good, someday.  I knew it.

[ry2fly]

Sounds like my kind of place, karaoke and oral sex. The two go hand and hand. What kind of tunes did they sing??

[worried/nervous]

Sir,

One last question to the one prior to this one - I promise.  

I think I may be overanalyzing your words, but based on my one encounter, and then no symptoms for 4 and a half weeks, can I confidently assume that I am home free from all STDs?  Without guaranteeing anything, in your opinion, should I put this to rest and get it out of my mind?

Sorry for these follow-up questions.  I think your assessment that the bumps are a variation of normal is correct and that I just became hypersensative to it due to the encounter.

Thanks so much!

[worried/nervous]

Thank you so much Doctor.  I am so relieved to hear your comments.  I did not believe it was herpes either, but it is so much nicer to hear it from you.

Thanks again!

[worried/nervous]

Sorry, but one post script.  The bumps were redder at first, but became fainter with time.  You mentioned that "herpes does not cause faint red bumps."  Does it matter that it was redder at the beginning?