To my knowledge, acute HIV symptoms never start within 2 days, and the risk of catching HIV during any single episode of vaginal sex is very low. Your symptoms may be typical for acute retroviral syndrome (ARS), but they also are typical for many other illnesses that are more common. You probably caught a garden-variety virus, maybe or maybe not from the same partner. So yes, I think you're probably overreacting; but if your partner is willing to be tested and if her negative result will help you sleep better, it's fine with me.
I had to smile at your seeming surprise that "the lady seemed to be pretty promiscuous". And you're not? Anybody who has sex with a person the same night they meet that person in a bar is behaving promiscuously; and anybody willing to have sex with someone in that context should be assumed to have many partners and to be at high risk for STD. Having sex with someone within hours of meeting, especially in a public setting, is one of the highest STD/HIV risk behaviors there is. But your risk for exposure to chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, or HPV is a lot higher than for HIV.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Thanks HHH, I feel a lot more at ease about it now. I am still going to get tested in a few weeks or so to make sure everything is alright but I feel a lot more confident that I probably am not infected with HIV.
I hadn't quite thought about it when I was writing my original post but you are absolutely right about what you said in the second paragraph of your response. I was behaving just as promiscuously as she was. It's not a normal thing for me, believe me, I can count on two or three fingers the number of women I have taken home the same night I met them in the 12 or so years I have been sexually active. Nonetheless, I am just as guilty as she was that night of making poor decisions.
Hi. Sorry to but in on a post.
Doctor, please answer!
In November 1997 I was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 by culture of one of the sores (gross, I know.) ANY way, during that initial outbreak, I remember never feeling so sick in all my life as I did then. I had a fever, swollen glands in neck and groin, painful blisters down below and around my mouth (I think). Also the inside of my mouth hurt so bad and I remember having night sweats. I know that with a primary herpes outbreak you can get flu-like symptoms, but with HSV-1 aren't these symptoms supposed to be milder? My main concern is that possiby this was ARS?? Are the symptoms of herpes and ARS similar? I'm really concerned about this because my husband (the person who gave me HSV) was involved with drugs. I'm not saying he shot up, but one never knows.........Please respond. Thank you.
P.S. I know you're going to tell me to get tested but I truly am not mentally able to do so.
You're wrong about HSV-1 being milder than HSV-2. There is no difference in severity for the initial genital infection with either virus. Primary infections can range in severity from minimal (or entirely asymptomatic) to severe systemic symptoms just like yours, and there is no particular reason to suspect ARS.
But it is silly to not be be tested for HIV if you're worried about it. It is ALWAYS better to know than to not know. Further, STDs go together, and increasing evidence indicates that much of the time HIV and herpes are acquired simultaneously. I truly don't believe you have HIV; it has been 8 years, and most HIV infected persons will have begun to have symptoms by that time. But the drug involvement of your partner does raise the risk somewhat, even if no IV drug use. So go get tested; after all this, the negative result will be more reassuring than my words.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
hey i was wondering is it possible to contract herpes or hiv from a dildo? it wasnt used for atleast a week but about 3months or more later i got a mark on the top of my abdomen unbder my left pec and then a few pimple like things on my butt cheecks and my anal was itchy it hasnt stopped since its not itchy anymore but its still there?
STDs probably can be tranferred by sex toys, but only when used in rapid succession by different people. As soon as any contaminating secretions dry (e.g, a couple of hours), the risk becomes very low and continues to decline; probably virtually zero after a few days. That said, it makes comon sense to wash dildos and other sex toys with soap and water or a detergent between uses. I doubt your symptoms are related to the exposure, but if you're worried, see a health care provider for testing.
Well see i didnt preform sexual actions or any thing like that. But I dont know how i would have got this white circle on my mouth. It's between my lower lip and my teeth (like in my mouth though). It kind of pain ful some times, but not all the time only if I put salty food or if i touch it with like my finger. Its white but its redder around then the rest of my mouth. Could I have got some thing from drinking?
Well sorry to waist your time I think it is a Canker Sore. I just read up on some of it. Also looked at pictures, But they say this can recur, by any chance you know how many times and how long it would take between each break out? Thank you for your time Tray
I am a straight male and had unprotected sex w/ a female I don't know a little more than 3 weeks ago. I believe I caught something either the day before, or the day of having unprotected sex. During the next couple of days, I started feeling worse: my symptoms included productive coughing and swollen lymph nodes and perhaps a slight fever. I started feeling better soon after, and I am almost completely recovered. I have no other symptoms/ilnesses thus far other than the ones mentioned above. Based on the timing and the symptoms I had, what is the likelihood that I am infected with HIV?
I'm realy looking for some help here.
I am working in Nigeria and have been a silly boy.
I have had protected sex with 2 sex workers.
Also, during one of the sex sessions, the girl inserted her finger in my anus. I also vaginally inserted my finger into a different girl.
In the cold sober light of day, I feel awful through guilt and axiety.
I would like to know, what are my chances of catching HIV, should I be worrying? I have a sore throat, 10 days after the incident.
Does having sex with 2 people double the odds of infection, or does it increase more? If someone could please give me some information that would be brilliant.
Finally (Sorry), if I have an STI like chlamydia from previously, how much will that increase my chances
I have the same symptoms as the first poster and am put at ease that it isn't HIV as I experienced symptoms the following day but my question is I have heard there is an HIV test that doesn't rely on the "window period" to indicate if you have been infected; what is this called, where would I get one done and how accurate is it?
Secondary question, my understanding is that if I have another, more common, illness that has the same symptoms (swollen lymph nodes, fatigue primarily) that it can cause a false positive for HIV because your body is creating antibodies to fight that illness which can be confused by the standard HIV tests. Does this mean we shouldn't be tested until the symptoms are gone completely?
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I had sex with a guy without protection unkonwing to me cos i was drunk,4 day interval started having cough,thoart pain not sore but i felt like am having bore on my thoart and my excrater which is my poo(sheet) looks like am having pie (decentary)