Welcome to the Forum. The risk for any STD, including HIV, from the activities that you describe is very, very low and perhaps zero.
Let's discuss your partner first. The likelihood that any heterosexual woman has an STD of any sort is low and your partner told you that she had been recently (3 weeks) checked and was not infected. This makes the chance that you were exposed to any STD very, very low. Even if she was infected however, the activities you took are in have no meaningful risk of leading to infection for you. To be specific:
Receipt of unprotected oral sex- probably the highest risk of all the types of exposure you mentioned and that risk is low. Oral sex is an inefficient way to transmit STDs. Of the bacterial STDs only gonorrhea and nongonococcal urethritis (NGU) are transmitted through oral sex; chlamydia is not and without an obvious sore or lesion on your partner’s mouth, the chances of syphilis and herpes is likewise tiny. If you had gotten gonorrhea or NGU you would have most likely developed symptoms of urethritis (penile infection) such as a penile discharge.
Cunnilingus- even lower risk that receipt of oral sex. I have never seen someone who became infected through the performance of oral sex on an infected partner.
Masturbation- her of you, you of her, genial or anal- no meaningful risk. Not a concern. the cuts on your hands and fingers do not change this
As for your symptoms- The pains in your armpits and groin, as well as your headache suggest that you may have acquired a non-STD, flu-like illness. Probably from something other than the exposure you describe.
I urge you not to worry and can say with confidence there is no need for STD testing from a medical perspective. I suspect your current symptoms are more coincidental than anything else. EWH
also, im enganged and Really worried about this!
Dr Hook,
I went to my GP today, I have not been feeling well. I was there a few weeks back and it was a sinius infection he prescribed me augmentin (sp?)
and today he check we out he said he felt some swollen glands in my groin as well as my neck(on top i have every syptom of sinius infection). Here is my concern im 8-9 days out from when the situation happened, I had unprotected sec with my fiance on tuesday. Could the swollen glands in my groin be Herpes? ive had some discomfort on my penis where the circumsized skin folds over the head of the penis no rash just red. Im just nervous Because in the past Ive been told by a doctor that herpes is so common now that it is like a chameleon. Ive had no discharge or anything like that. ALso today he prescribed me leavaquin (sp) Thanks again!
No change in my assessment or advice. EWH
Last time on this, im really just worried about this enconter, I have not been feeling well and loosing sleep I dont know if its the meds the doc has me on or what. For hsv 1 or 2, is possible to have groin pain and be sick before the rash starts. the only thing i noticed was a red dots no bigger the 3mm about just below the head of my penis. I know im stressing out,I even asked the girl if she had ever had any cold sores on her lips she said no. im sorry im not trying to annoy
No, the symtoms you describe are not at all suggestive of herpes. No change in my opinion or assessment.
This will end this thread. There will be no further answers. EWH