Thanks for your input. The guy I got this from disapearred. Because I got this from someone else. I can concerned about possibly giving it to someone else. I know you said you would not try to guess but any info you have that would help me diagnosis this would be appreciated. Is there another specialist I should see or test I should take. Viral, Bacterial and yeast infections have all been brought up. But I don't understand how those could cause symptoms this persistent. Also, the burning and tingling seem to get worse in sunlight and when I have sugar, coffee or chocolate,
My first reaction is to the title you chose for this thread: If a person has to ask whether particular symptoms are due to herpes, almost always the answer is no. Herpes can be entirely asymptomatic, but when it causes symptoms at all, those symptoms are generally quite characteristic of the disease and not "atypical".
OK, going on to read your question.... And I find nothing to argue with myself about! Let me cite the evidence against herpes, one by one:
1) Neither herpes nor any other STD can start to cause symptoms within several hours. Two days is the absolute minimum, so the tingling/burning of your lips could not have been herpes. 2) Herpes doesn't cause "tiny bumps", "dry and leathery" skin, "brown spots" on the lips (or anywhere else), cough, or scratchy throat. 3) Anything that comes and goes in a few hours cannot be herpes. Once a herpes lesion starts and progresses to a red bump or to the blister stage, it cannot clear up entirely in less than 10 days or so. 4) Gynecologists are good at recognizing herpes. Since yours says your problem doesn't look like herpes, most likely it isn't herpes.
The only thing you mention that remotely resembles herpes is the pimple on your lip. However, the first episode of oral herpes usually is multiple, very painful sores inside the mouth, plus severe sore throat--and not a pimple or two on the outside.
I have no explanation for your symptoms and will not try to guess. But you can put herpes to rest. If you want even more security, you could have another HerpeSelect blood test 3 months after your kissing events. In the meantime, I hope this event hasn't put you off on an otherwise promising sexual relationship. Even if your partner has oral herpes, that infection isn't important enough to get in the way of romance and healthy sex!
Good luck-- HHH, MD