Reassurance

[michel456]

Dear Drs.

I would just like some reassurance to what I think I already know. Your posts regarding HIV has allayed my concern.

I have had protected sex with 5 men. 4 of them were one offs. I was on top. The other man was maybe 5-7 times and it was protected and always on top.

I had had unprotect oral sex roughly 12 times by the men and given it 4 times.

I regret these events.

At the beginning of my relationship with my girl friend who I have had for over 2 years we begun with unprotected sex, however not too long into the relationship - 4/5 months, she decided to stop taking the Pill. We begun using condoms.

I have been tested several times for Chlymida and Ghonorrea since November - all negative.

I read somewhere that once can clear the infection by oneself without antibiotics.

I was worried that I may have had the infection (despite never having symptoms) and passed it on to my gf 2 years ago before we begun using condoms and when I got tested I had cleared the infection so it was negative.

Do you consider this is be an unnecessary worry? My GP told me that he feels it is. Have you ever seen this in your 30+ years of expertise?

She has never displayed any discharge or anything like that, but when one reads about clym. causing infertility that worried me.

I have seen posts on here that people have had clym or ghon undetected for years and so to me I think that if I had negative tests, then I never had it in the first place as it would show up and therefore I could not pass it on to my girl friend.

Thank you

[michel456]

Thank you Dr and sorry for making you mad.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EWH

[michel456]

Dear Dr. Hook.

I believe that I do not have Clym. or Ghon entirely. From that point, I am wholly aware that I am unable to infect my girl friend with something that I do not have.

What I simply wanted to know was that if it were possible that 2 years ago when our sex was unprotected I could have had something and passed it on to her and by the time I was tested have cleared the infection myself.

Both her nor I have ever displayed any discharge associated with clym or ghon.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

This is a continuation of the same guilt-ridden line of questioning that you have pursued earlier for HIV, asking of highly reliable tests do really rule out infection.  The reason for the tests is the information they provide; they are highly studied and regulated to assure reliability.  Your multiple tests are negative, believe them. They are highly reliable and with multiple tests there is simply no way that you are infected.

In addition, I must point out that we ask clients to not make more than two posts to our Forums in any 6 month period in order to allow others the chance to get their questions answered. This is your third question on our forums in less than a month (not to mention your post on the international HIV Forum and your posts on the HIV Prevention Community site).

Believe your tests. You do not have gonorrhea or chlamydia that you could pass on to your GF.  You do not need more testing. What I suspect would benefit you however is professional counseling regarding what appears to be pathological, harmful (to you and your relationships) guilt.  I say this out of concern.

This will end this thread and there will be no follow-ups.EWH