Received Oral Sex - 10 Days and Counting

[mini_me_third_leg]

Hello,

I am a male in my early twenties, moderately healthy, with a long-distance relationship.  Ten days ago, after a night of too much drinking, I mistakenly went home with a girl who has had a sizable sexual past (25 partners vs me, 1 partner).  After some medium french-kissing and rubbing of our clothed genitals, I received oral sex for approximately 1 to 1.5 mins before I stopped her.

I was and now am still worried about having acquired an STD.  While I have not shown any outbreak signs or discomfort urinating or ejaculating since then, I am still worried that I may have contracted something, anything.

I plan on being sexually active with my loved one in five days and worry about retransmission, particularly during oral sex. We will use condoms for all intercourse, but not for oral sex (both giving and receiving).

Am I at risk?  Is she at risk? Is it necessary to test for an STD?  Is it too soon to tell?

Please help. I am willing to spend the money for a next-day STD test, but that is useless if it is too soon.  I worry primarily about virus-based STDs (incurable), but still worry about them all.

Ashamed, worried,
-minime

[JohnnyV]

You didn't screw anything up, you did the right thing. It sounds like she wanted it more than you did anyway (didn't you say you stopped her?). Probably sour grapes. Just get checked up anyway for good measure.

J

[ScaredCrappingPantsGuy]

Hello Dr.,

You mentioned that in mini-me's case, he was not at risk in terms of hiv infection.  What if the woman who gave him oral sex had had a cold sore?  Would that change anything?

[mini_me_third_leg]

I had the nerve yesterday to confront the girl who gave me oral sex . She said she was clean as a whistle and called me an *******.

Isn't life awful?  Why on earth did I screw this all up.

Thanks for the discussion and advice.

-minime

[JohnnyV]

Hi,

I don't know if the doc is going to be able to answer your question, but your situation has come up before in other threads. Usually what Dr. H says is that the cold sore theoretically increases the risk, but the risk is so low to begin with that the small increase doesn't matter. It's like having a 1 in 5 million chance versus a 1 in 2 million, or something like that. He's said many times that they've never found a case of someone getting HIV from getting sucked or by performing oral sex on a woman (eating her out) -- there are only cases of people gettig HIV thru oral sex from sucking a man off; and even those cases are pretty rare.

J

[JohnnyV]

Hi,

Sounds like a good plan. There's no way you have HIV, but there are other things you could have caught, and 15 days afterward is an awkward phase, possibly infectious. One visit without oral sex might be disappointing, but it's better than being worried sick.

J

[mini_me_third_leg]

Hi,

I have been completely honest with you guys.  I guess I am freaking out because this is the second person I have had any form of sexual contact with.

My girlfriend and I don't use condoms during oral sex.  I'll have to abstain from receiving unprotected oral.

-minime