STD Exposure Scare.. Please Help

[guessme124]

I'm a nervous wreck so I will outline my dilemma and try not to ramble.  I know you hear enough of"my situation is different, and here's how" I (like them) wanted to ask you specifically because the more and more I read all over the closer I get to a panic attack.About a month 5 weeks ago I (a girl) spent the night with a friend (a boy) and while sharing the bed together he started kissing me and fingering me. After doing this for a little he pulled out his **** and masturbated himself for a little (by little I mean a few seconds 30 MAX) . I asked him to put his pants back on (which he did) but then he started to finger me again. Nothing further happened after this as we both fell asleep. Also, at some point he put his fingers in my mouth.
My questions are as follows:
1: Is there any STD/STI risk with the behavior above as I described?
2: If there are fluids on his hand (assuming he has an std, of course) when he enters me is this a risk?
3: Is this kind of "play" considered a risk to my health (or his) at all?
4. how long will an STD remain on the hand one touched?
5. Do you suggest testing? If so, for what?

Your response is greatly appreciated, GREATLY!
Thank you

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Sorry, this is not a debate and there is no rule that you need to believe me.   The organisms are rather fragile and do not do well when exposed to air.  The data are the data, verified by studies and observations of thousands of patients.  EWH

[guessme124]

This seems a little contradictory. If the fluid (or std) on his hands touch my mucosal surfaces it seems as though this would be sufficient for transmission. I guess I'd just like to know how it isn't?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Penetration with contact of mucosal surfaces (as opposed to touching with non-mucosal skin which is far more resisitant to infection.  EWH

[guessme124]

just curious again, scientifically where does the difference occur between such close touching and actually engaging in sex? Is it because of this "intermediate" as you called it?

[guessme124]

As you can see I have been watching the page anxiously for your response. Knowing that STDs are not transmitted through secondary objects (hand) is VEERY relieving to hear, for many of my concerns outside of this questions.  

Thank you Doctor

[Edward W Hook, MD]

The exposures you describe are no risk for STD. For starters, it is unlikely that he has an STD.  Even if he did however, there is no reason for concern or for testing.  All of the activities that you describe exposure are within the realm of masturbation which is safe sex.  No risk to you for acquisition of HIV or any other STD.  Please realize that in the course of masturbation small amounts of genital secretions are inadvertently shared between partners with regularity, nonetheless there are no HIV transmissions which have occurred in this way.  Similarly, there is no risk from his putting his fingers in your mouth.  STDs are not transmitted through by hands as intermediates.  In answer to your specific questions:

1.  No, no risk.
2.  No - hand to genital transmission is very inefficient and not a realistic concern.
3.  No, not unless it leads to penetrative sex (which it often does, no matter what was "planned".
4.  Very briefly if at all.
5.  No need for testing

Hope this helps.  EWH

[stupid76]

For what it's worth, from someone else that has had a lot of anxiety over STD's, you really have nothing to worry about.