Almost certainly you did not transmit HSV to your partner by your hands; that is not known to happen, or at least is so rare you can forget about it.
But it sounds like you still need to read up on genital herpes and preventing transmission. Assuming you also have intercourse with you partner, and that means she is at risk, even if you are very careful to avoid sex when you have an outbreak. If not yet done, your partner needs to have a blood test to see if she is already infected or still susceptible to catching it from you.
Go read the herpes information available at the Seattle-King Co. Health Department (www.metrokc.gov/health/apu/std/), the American Social Health Association (www.ashastd.org), or CDC (www.cdc.gov/std).
HHH, MD
Well, I have refused to have sex with her until she agrees to marry me. I love her deeply and the thought of her catching herpes without the gauruntee of not being alone rips me to pieces.
Thank you for your swift reply. Can you confirm that transmission through my hands is unlikely even if my outbreak was only 95% cleared up (no scabs left and new skin almost all formed).
Once again thank you - I feel as if I can calm down a little now. So many damn websites preach fire and brimstone - 'if you so much as look at your penis and happen to glance at her vagina shes doomed etc...'
Thanks