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Sensual Massage - STD Possibilities?
Hello. On 6/21 I had a sensual massage with a guy. I wanted to get your opinion on a few things as I am a bit worried after this event has happened.
The event: I had a massage with a guy (we was in his underwear, me naked). Although there was no sex, he did jerk me off at the end and did kiss my pecs/nipples. He never got off and was never naked against me (underwear).
1. Am at at risk of any STD's (or related bugs) from this type of encounter?
2. I have been a little stressed-out since I would not normally do a sensual massage like this from a stranger. So, I have been worried since the massage. I have had some skin thing going on since that encounter (like little pimples on my back and upper arms). Not sure if it is related, but my mind is running away right now.
3. I got some annon testing done (GC/Chlam/RPR/HIV/HSV) and all came back negative, but I was cautioned that for some of the tests it might be too early to detect (i.e. Get tested again in a month)
4. My doctor looked at the rash/pimples and could not pinpoint what it is but thought it was too minoe ro diagnose and treat at this point.
5. Was politely asked the massage guy if he was clean/disease free, and he said he was (although talk is cheap I guess)
So, it has been about 3.5 weeks since and I was wondering if you could speak to me if I have anything to worry about? What could I have gotten from this massage guy? If all of this is in my head?
Thanks.
The event: I had a massage with a guy (we was in his underwear, me naked). Although there was no sex, he did jerk me off at the end and did kiss my pecs/nipples. He never got off and was never naked against me (underwear).
1. Am at at risk of any STD's (or related bugs) from this type of encounter?
2. I have been a little stressed-out since I would not normally do a sensual massage like this from a stranger. So, I have been worried since the massage. I have had some skin thing going on since that encounter (like little pimples on my back and upper arms). Not sure if it is related, but my mind is running away right now.
3. I got some annon testing done (GC/Chlam/RPR/HIV/HSV) and all came back negative, but I was cautioned that for some of the tests it might be too early to detect (i.e. Get tested again in a month)
4. My doctor looked at the rash/pimples and could not pinpoint what it is but thought it was too minoe ro diagnose and treat at this point.
5. Was politely asked the massage guy if he was clean/disease free, and he said he was (although talk is cheap I guess)
So, it has been about 3.5 weeks since and I was wondering if you could speak to me if I have anything to worry about? What could I have gotten from this massage guy? If all of this is in my head?
Thanks.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
HSV symptoms usually start 3-5 days after exposure. But you should stop worrying about ridiculously low risk outcomes. Do you go around worrying about being hit by lightning? The chance that will happen to you is many times higher than the chance you caught herpes -- and I mean that literally. It would be really dumb to have an HSV blood test on account of this event.
That's all for this thread. I won't have any other comments.
That's all for this thread. I won't have any other comments.
Understood. People think that paying $15 per bag on your airline flight is expensive...emotional baggage is much more costly. Yikes.
A final question. If there was HSV transmitted, how long before you would see it? If I wanted to test myself a last time (to put my mind at ease), how long after should I wait?
A final question. If there was HSV transmitted, how long before you would see it? If I wanted to test myself a last time (to put my mind at ease), how long after should I wait?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You could not have caught anything. Therefore there is nothing to alert your partner about. (Whether you need to unburden some emotional baggage about the encounter is a different issue -- and that part is entirely up to you.)
Thanks for your reply.
I think I understand what you are saying. My only concern is if I should alert my partner about this or not (I do not want to raise alarm when it is not necessary). Thoughts? Maybe this has been what has had me most pre-occupied.
I think I understand what you are saying. My only concern is if I should alert my partner about this or not (I do not want to raise alarm when it is not necessary). Thoughts? Maybe this has been what has had me most pre-occupied.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the STD forum. I'll try to help.
Reacting first to just the title you chose for your quesiton: Except in very unusual circumstances, there are no STD risks from a sensual massage. No unprotected insertion of penis into mouth, vagina, or anus means no STD risk.
Now I have read the question itself. STDs are not transmitted by hand-genital contact. There are small, theoretical risks for herpes and HPV, but both of these are rare and not worth any worry. So the answers to your questions are:
1) No risk.
2,4) No STD causes pimples or other rash on the arms. Trust your doctor's judgment about it.
3) You over-tested if this is the only potential STD exposure you have had. If you are otherwise sexually active and haven't had STD testing recently, perhaps this was a good idea. But most likley it was a waste of money.
5) Most people don't lie about known STDs or HIV when asked directly, so probably he was being truthful. But he could have had any STD there is; you still were not at risk.
I don't know what is or isn't in your head. But you didn't catch an STD from this event. Return to your doctor if you remain concerned about any of this.
Regards-- HHH, MD
Reacting first to just the title you chose for your quesiton: Except in very unusual circumstances, there are no STD risks from a sensual massage. No unprotected insertion of penis into mouth, vagina, or anus means no STD risk.
Now I have read the question itself. STDs are not transmitted by hand-genital contact. There are small, theoretical risks for herpes and HPV, but both of these are rare and not worth any worry. So the answers to your questions are:
1) No risk.
2,4) No STD causes pimples or other rash on the arms. Trust your doctor's judgment about it.
3) You over-tested if this is the only potential STD exposure you have had. If you are otherwise sexually active and haven't had STD testing recently, perhaps this was a good idea. But most likley it was a waste of money.
5) Most people don't lie about known STDs or HIV when asked directly, so probably he was being truthful. But he could have had any STD there is; you still were not at risk.
I don't know what is or isn't in your head. But you didn't catch an STD from this event. Return to your doctor if you remain concerned about any of this.
Regards-- HHH, MD
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