HSV and HPV are unlikely from this event. Neither causes urethral "tingling". If you caught HSV, you would typically know it by appearance of penile blisters or open sores where your penis was exposed, usually starting 3-5 days after exposure but sometimes up to 2 weeks. HPV usually causes no symptoms. When it causes genital warts, they typically appear 3-12 months after exposure, sometimes as long as 2 years.
That's my last comment. If you remain concerned, see my original reply about seeing a doctor or clinic for direct examination and possible STD testing.
BTW. The tingle does not occur when I urinate. Thank you for your patients.
I see. What about herpes and hpv? When would they show? Other then anxiety are there any kind of infections you can think of that would cause my urethra to tingle. I know you are probably tired now, and unless something develops I will trouble you no further. Thanks!
"I was under the impression that if someone did not actually have sex that there was no risk." Correct; that's exactly my point, and is the reason you don't need testing and can be confident your symptoms are not due to any STD from this event.
If somehow you had in fact been exposed, discharge typically would start within 5 days for gonorrhea and 1-3 weeks for chlamydia or NGU.
I have been tested up to this point, so this is the only situation I would be concerned about. Does the absence of any discharge or bumps of any kind mean anything in 10 days or less? When would one expect these things to show up? I was under the impression that if someone did not actually have sex that there was no risk. I really hope I didn't ruin my life with this bone headed move!
Welcome to the forum.
Hand-genital contact, fingering, etc rarely transmit any STDs. The only potential risk is for those STDs transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact, such as herpes and HPV, but even these are low risk. Urethral infections like gonorrhea, chlamydia, or NGU are zero risk for all practical purposes.
If there were abnormal discharge due to gonorrhea, chlamydia, or NGU, there might be discomfort when urinating -- but discomfort or "tingling" by itself is rarely due to STD. My guess is your awareness is up out of concern for the STD risks or perhaps anxiety about a sexual decision you regret.
Of course no distant online expert can guarantee you don't have an STD, whether from this event or other risks. If I were in your situation, with my professional understanding of the risks, I would not be tested and would continue unprotected sex with my wife without worry. But I'm not you: if professional examination and testing would make you more confident about it, by all means feel free to do so.
I hope this has helped ease your concerns. Best wishes-- HHH, MD