Worried std

[jojo882]

I'm female, from uk, 44 married. In may 2003 had an affair with co worker had protected sex,unprotected oral (twice till completion) ended affair realized mistake. I have suffered with cystitis since 18. in Dec 2004 husband experienced uti, burning when urinating blood in urine, no discharge was given antibiotics. Went to GP had test for clam, not sure if they tested for gon as well but test was neg. 2005 I  had end ablation, continued getting cystitis more antibiotics. In Jan 2006 had sub total hysterectomy. I still continued to get uti and was given long term trimethoprim and now I have to take one trim after sex to prevent further infections. in march 2010 hubby got another uti, same as before pain on urinating passing blood, went to A&E doc ask if he had gonorrhea he said no did a urine test and said that they would send results to GP and they would call if anything wrong, did not hear anything. End of may this year went on holiday to spain hubby got very bad ear infection doc gave him 4 injections of penicillin antibiotics and ear drops. 29 June hubby got penile pain, burning again passing blood, pain fever, went docs given trimethoprim got a call on Monday and told he needed to take nitrofurantoin they did not say what type of infection this was. Hubby had vasectomy in 96 and did have an infection prior to 2003.
Do you think that I had caught gon from oral and passed it on to hubby, if he had no symptoms ie discharge would it show up after 18 mths  in Dec 2004
Could I have gon for 8 years and it keeps flaring up, really worried that my hubby has this and keeps coming back
Would all these years taking antibiotics have any effect
I have read some many different forums and some say that gon lays dormant for years, really worried about this making myself ill.
I did ask my co worker back in 2004 if he had anything and he said no, he was in a relationship and is now married to his partner at the time. Thank you

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Testing only for chalmydia is quite unsual. Most clinicians test for both at the same time.

No change in my assessment or advice.  EWH

[jojo882]

Sorry to ask another question but I have just read through my original question and just wanted to add that I don't think either of us was tested for gonorrhoea I was tested for clam in 2004, but I think the GP did the normal urine culture would this change your response
Thanks

[jojo882]

Thank you for your comments I will try and not worry. Thanks again

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Indeed, gonorrhea often does clear up on it's own although antibiotics are certainly surer.

I suspect your husband's problems are an unfortuante coincidence, nothing more. EWH

[jojo882]

Thank you for your reply I will try not to worry and try to put this behind me.
I would hope that the many antibiotics that we have both taken over the last 8 years would have helped if there had been anything. Can I just ask if I had caught gon would it have cleared up on it's own or would it have developed into more serious problems as my husband did not have any problems until 18months after the exposure and I know some people dont show symptoms. He does know about the affair but we have put this behind us and I don't want to bring it all up again, is there any nerd for a STD test?
Thank you

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum. I'll try to help. It is natural enough to be concerned about a possible STD following sex with someone other than your regular partner, particularly if you both have been having genitourinary symptoms.  In your case however there have repeated tests, multiple examinations by trained physicians an multiple courses of antibiotics for both of you.  Gonorrhea is easily treated an does not lie dormant in the manner you suggest.  This is now history and long past.  Your chances of getting gonorrhea back in 2003 from unprotected oral sex are quite small and the events in the interim make the probability that you still have gonorrhea or that your husband's problems are due to gonorrhea close to, if not, zero.  I would not worry about gonorrhea from the encounter you describe in 2003 at all.  I urge you not to worry further about the possibility of lingering gonorrhea.

I hope my comment provides some comfort. EWH