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I have perused this site for two weeks and fond it very helpful. Two weeks ago for the first time I had oral sex with a gay man.
we performed it on each other we didn't ejaculated during the act but did mutually masturbate and stimulated each other's anus's with our fingers. I 've never done this before and don't regard myself as attracted to men but I was drunk and having to come to terms with this episode.
My main concern is that on the morning immediately after the encounter I noticed a reddened area on my glans penis. Quite distinct and about 8mm by 8mm in size . I thought that is was a result of rigorous masturation or a result of the oral sex. this mark dissapeared after a few days. My main fear is that because this unexplained mark on my penis could my risk of contracting hiv or anything else serious have been increased. Apart from great anxiety and been very conscious of my genital area at the moment I'm not aware of any symptoms though my imagination is running riot. I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with this and appreciate any help you can give me.
I live in the uk.
forgive me if this is the wrong site
we performed it on each other we didn't ejaculated during the act but did mutually masturbate and stimulated each other's anus's with our fingers. I 've never done this before and don't regard myself as attracted to men but I was drunk and having to come to terms with this episode.
My main concern is that on the morning immediately after the encounter I noticed a reddened area on my glans penis. Quite distinct and about 8mm by 8mm in size . I thought that is was a result of rigorous masturation or a result of the oral sex. this mark dissapeared after a few days. My main fear is that because this unexplained mark on my penis could my risk of contracting hiv or anything else serious have been increased. Apart from great anxiety and been very conscious of my genital area at the moment I'm not aware of any symptoms though my imagination is running riot. I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with this and appreciate any help you can give me.
I live in the uk.
forgive me if this is the wrong site
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Your follow-up question should have been asked as a follow-up comment here. I deleted your new thread.
Oral sex is not a risk for catching HIV, or at least low enough it can be totally disregarded. And as I already said, the other events were risk free as well. For more discussion of HIV risks with oral sex, go to the HIV Prevention forum and use the search function.
That will be all for this thread, and please don't start any new questions related to this exposure, either here or on the HIV forum. There is nothing you can add that would change my opinion or advice.
Oral sex is not a risk for catching HIV, or at least low enough it can be totally disregarded. And as I already said, the other events were risk free as well. For more discussion of HIV risks with oral sex, go to the HIV Prevention forum and use the search function.
That will be all for this thread, and please don't start any new questions related to this exposure, either here or on the HIV forum. There is nothing you can add that would change my opinion or advice.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum. This site is fine; since your concern is STDs other than HIV, your question could have been either here or the HIV forum.
Oral sex carries low risk for all STDs; not risk free, but with a lot lower likelihood of infection than vaginal or anal sex. In any case, no STD can cause symptoms in under 24 hours; 2-3 days is the minimum. Therefore, the red mark on your penis cannot be due to any infection from your partner's mouth. Your first impression probably was correct: most likely it resulted from minor trauma during the sexual exposure. The other expossures you describe -- hand-genital contact, anal fingering -- are entirely risk free.
If the red spot has cleared up and you have no other symptoms like penile sores or discharge of pus or mucus, you can be quite sure you weren't infected. However, if you remain concerned, I suggest you visit a your local NHS GUM clinic for examination and perhaps STD testing; or you could find a private clinic. (If you are in or near London, consider Freedom Health, an excellent private sexual health clinic.) Either optins will offer expert care, where you can be completely frank about your sexual exposure. Trust me: they have seen it ALL before and won't bat an eye at your experimental exposure with another man. And that's probably all it was -- this isn't something to beat yourself up about.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Oral sex carries low risk for all STDs; not risk free, but with a lot lower likelihood of infection than vaginal or anal sex. In any case, no STD can cause symptoms in under 24 hours; 2-3 days is the minimum. Therefore, the red mark on your penis cannot be due to any infection from your partner's mouth. Your first impression probably was correct: most likely it resulted from minor trauma during the sexual exposure. The other expossures you describe -- hand-genital contact, anal fingering -- are entirely risk free.
If the red spot has cleared up and you have no other symptoms like penile sores or discharge of pus or mucus, you can be quite sure you weren't infected. However, if you remain concerned, I suggest you visit a your local NHS GUM clinic for examination and perhaps STD testing; or you could find a private clinic. (If you are in or near London, consider Freedom Health, an excellent private sexual health clinic.) Either optins will offer expert care, where you can be completely frank about your sexual exposure. Trust me: they have seen it ALL before and won't bat an eye at your experimental exposure with another man. And that's probably all it was -- this isn't something to beat yourself up about.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
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STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
