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oral to vagina, stds?
I recently did unprotected oral sex to a female friend twice (different days). She is 38, married with 2 kids and the 2nd kid was born 10 months ago. I am curently in a long term relationship. The first exposure occurred on July 16, 2013 and i gave her oral for about 5 mins. After that i continued to have intercourse with my girlfriend not even thinking about stds. On July 27th my girlfriend gets a yeast infection (has never had one) and takes OTC medication for it and it goes away after a week. On Aug 5th, i again give my friend unprotected oral for about 15 mins along with fingering her anus. At this point i start having major anxiety and guilt about cheating on my gf. On August 30th, i went and got RPR test for syphilis (25 days after last exposure) and urine tests for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Tests come back negative. Around same time i notice my tongue is coated white. On Sept 26th, my gf gets a high fever, chills, and a sore throat. Took her to clinic and they did not test but gave her a shot (steroid i think). Symptoms cleared up next day but she notices she has another yeast infection. This time it looks chaffed around her vulva and almost to her anus. No discharge or smell. She complained that it burned to the touch Like diaper rash. She took OTC medicine again and it went away in about a week. I still have a white coated tongue. Did i get and std and pass to my gf which she believes are yeast infection. Is it possible my anxiety is giving me the white tongue and making me connect lines between my mistake and my gfs yeast infections? I do not do oral to my gf but i do use my saliva to lubricate when we have sex. Can i have transferred an std to her from my saliva? Or could i have transferred her yeast infection to my mouth while using my saliva to lubricate her and putting fingers back in my mouth? As for the RPR test for syphilis, can i assume the negative result was good or was it too soon?
I agree with you about telling any future sex partners about my cold sores. Up until a month ago when I started looking online reading about stds is when I realized what danger I put my friend in. I was ignorant. I just want this nightmare to be over so I can move on. Reading other posts in the forum, ive read where yourself and Dr. Hook have posted new herpes infections usually occur 3-5 days after exposure and very rarely after 3 weeks. Do you still agree with this? I know the thread has gone long enough and I will end after this. Just looking for reassurance I guess. Thank you for what you do Dr. Hansfield.
Thank you for your help DR.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
In the absence of an overt herpes outbreak, the chance of transmitting your oral HSV to your partner genital is low -- as a guess, under 1 chance in 1,000. If she hasn't had symtoms, the likelihood you infected her is even lower. At this point, I don't suggest you say anything to her. In the future, however, any and all sex partners should be informed of your oral herpes before your mouth comes into any contact with them, either kissing or oral-genital. It's only fair; the risk is low, but not zero.
Thank you for your response Dr. I know a lot of it is anxiety and fear driven. One last question to ease my mind please. I have had 3 cold sores in the past with my last one being almost 3 yrs ago. When I conducted oral on my friend I did not have a cold sore. Do you think it is likely I passed something to my friend even if its been over 2 months and she has not had any symptoms? Is it safe to move on without worrying?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Even more evidence against any STD.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.
I'm happy to confirm the accurate replies you had on the community forum. From your description, I agree your partner is at low risk for STDs. You are correct that urine or genital testing don't detect oral STDs. However, cunnlingus is very low risk for any and all STDs; combining that with your partner's low risk, STDs are not a serious consideration at all.
Equally important, neither your symptoms nor your partners suggest any STDs. Although yeast infections once in a while are shared between sex partners, they are not STDs. Neither yeast nor STDs cause fever, chills, and sore throat; these symptoms almost certainly are due to influenza or other garden variety respiratory virus -- which also is the most common cause of coated tongue.
Your RPR at 25 days was too soon to detect a new syphilis infection; it takes up to 6 weeks. However, the chance of syphilis in this situation is zero for all practical purposes. It would not even have entered my mind if you had been in my clinic.
In summary, I am confident that your girlfriend's symptoms and your own have abolutely nothing to do with your recent sexual indiscretion. Don't worry about it. I expect all your symptoms to improve with time. If they do not, then seeing your respective primary care physicians would make sense -- but even in that case, I see no need to even mention your sexual contact a few weeks earlier.
Best regards-- HHH, MD
I'm happy to confirm the accurate replies you had on the community forum. From your description, I agree your partner is at low risk for STDs. You are correct that urine or genital testing don't detect oral STDs. However, cunnlingus is very low risk for any and all STDs; combining that with your partner's low risk, STDs are not a serious consideration at all.
Equally important, neither your symptoms nor your partners suggest any STDs. Although yeast infections once in a while are shared between sex partners, they are not STDs. Neither yeast nor STDs cause fever, chills, and sore throat; these symptoms almost certainly are due to influenza or other garden variety respiratory virus -- which also is the most common cause of coated tongue.
Your RPR at 25 days was too soon to detect a new syphilis infection; it takes up to 6 weeks. However, the chance of syphilis in this situation is zero for all practical purposes. It would not even have entered my mind if you had been in my clinic.
In summary, I am confident that your girlfriend's symptoms and your own have abolutely nothing to do with your recent sexual indiscretion. Don't worry about it. I expect all your symptoms to improve with time. If they do not, then seeing your respective primary care physicians would make sense -- but even in that case, I see no need to even mention your sexual contact a few weeks earlier.
Best regards-- HHH, MD
Sorry but I would like add that her 1st yeast infection came after being in her wet bathing suit for a lfew hours. And her 2nd yeast infection with the high fever and sore throat came after a co-worker had the flu in same week. Don't know if that will make a difference to yiur assessment.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
