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[latoya91]

hi doc,
i am a stripper and while i know many strippers do a lot of willing extras, there are also many men who have the wrong idea and take their penis out of their zippers without the dancer knowing, *** on their pants while the dancer is grinding on them, try once and again to touch under g-strings...etc.i am hoping you can give me answers to some unusual work related questions.

there was a guy at the club last night who grabbed the backside string of my thong during a dance. he tried to touch or finger my anus. i have a small hemorrhoid (i got during pregnancy) . i forced his hand off and i don't think he really touched my anus just my thong and maybe some of the inside of my butt cheek. my worries are that he might have fingered another girl and had dry secretions on his hands from not washing his hands. is this risky in any way to me?

sometimes men *** on their pants while i am grinding on them with a g-string. sometimes the thong moves out of place with movement. is that of risk ?

and lastly, this hasen't happened to me but it does happen...if a man has some of his penis exposed and the girl rubs on it can anything be transmitted that way? what if he cums?

weird questions- i know but will greatly appreciate the answers!

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your questions are certainly not typical for this site but are reasonable given your repeated potential exposures.  We get many questions of this sort regarding 1-time exposures and always dismiss them. In your situation with repeated, work-related issues, your questions are more reasonable.  To preview where I'm going however, you don't have too much to worry about.

1.  Can he infect you with a probing finger?  No.  STDs of all sorts are not effectively transmitted with intermediates for transmission. Thus fingers, hands, even sex toys are not reasonable mechanisms for STD or HIV transmission unless the finger immediately goes from one orifice to the other -even then the risk would be very, very low.

2.  Could you get infected through exposure to a penis or semen while you are grinding on them?  No, not for the most part.  For transmission of STDs in secretions like gonorrhea, chlamydia, trich, etc the semen would need to get further into your vagina than is likely with grinding on their genitals or even the exposed penis. The only real exceptions to this generalization are lesion diseases like herpes or (very, very, very) rarely), syphilis. Both of these can be transmitted by skin to skin contact.  In each case, if exposed however, transmission is very rare.

Bottom line, you have little to worry about from the exposures you describe. Such tranmissions might occur very rarely but hardly ever, if at all. Hope this helps. EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

I thnk a yearly exam is sufficient.  If you wanted to be extra safe, you might increase that to twice yearly (but then you will need to explain why to your doctor - I see no problem with that but, as you probably know, some people are pretty wierd about such things).  EWH

[latoya91]

is my yearly pap enough testing for my kind of job? or should i test more often than once a year?  things like this don't happen every night, just now and then.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

I think k you are overanalyzing this - something that could be very troublesome for a person in your line of work.  I never say zero or no risk.  The problem is with the infinite variablity and people, things happen.  That said, I would you not to worry about the "what ifs" relating to whether or not he had dried secrtions on his hand - your risk is very, very low. EWH

[latoya91]

thank you for your answers. i am married and things like these stress me out. if i may please just ask one more thing about what happened last night... i really don't know how long it had been since his last dance,and i really don't recall him directly touching me inside my g-string.
my question is- if he had dried up secretions on his hands,then touched the backside string of my thong,  my thong had obvious contact with my privates (and embarrasingly my hemmorrhoid). i know there is low risk but would i be safe to say no risk?
i just don't know how i would explain this if anything showed up to my husband, or to a doctor face to face. i get the feeling i am over-analyzing but i don't want to be ignorant.