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Good morning everyone! I have a question, not sure if anyone has any info to offer, but does anyone homeschool their kids or know anyone who does?
My older daughter is 9. She absolutely HATES school! She has always hated it. She was being bullied for the first few years, which probably contributed to her not liking school, but that has gotten a little better and she still hates it. Some days, like yesterday, she gets herself so worked up about it that she makes herself literally sick to her stomach.
I am so tired of this fight every morning and I feel bad for her too. I know that this is part of parenting but I am not sure what to do or who to ask for help. Her dad isn't of much help and my husband isn't either. I don't want to teach her that it's okay to run away from her problems, but I also don't want to torture her with school for the next 9-10 years. She is truly unhappy and I am interested in talking with someone who knows things about homeschooling to see if that is the route we should try.
I just feel like because she is only 9, it is going to be an extremely long next 9 years. It only gets worse as they get older. Any thoughts or advice?
Thanks all!
Sarah
My older daughter is 9. She absolutely HATES school! She has always hated it. She was being bullied for the first few years, which probably contributed to her not liking school, but that has gotten a little better and she still hates it. Some days, like yesterday, she gets herself so worked up about it that she makes herself literally sick to her stomach.
I am so tired of this fight every morning and I feel bad for her too. I know that this is part of parenting but I am not sure what to do or who to ask for help. Her dad isn't of much help and my husband isn't either. I don't want to teach her that it's okay to run away from her problems, but I also don't want to torture her with school for the next 9-10 years. She is truly unhappy and I am interested in talking with someone who knows things about homeschooling to see if that is the route we should try.
I just feel like because she is only 9, it is going to be an extremely long next 9 years. It only gets worse as they get older. Any thoughts or advice?
Thanks all!
Sarah
If you do decide to try the homeschooling, I'll bet you have a great time with it! When you and your kids are so involved in each other's lives, the bonds are really reinforced! I think it is a lot of the reason we all have stayed so close.
The field trips and learning opportunities are unlimited. When the kids in my son's class were learning about Colorado History out of a book, we got to camp in a restricted area of Mesa Verde and a private tour with some of the Ute Nation.
My kids all went with a friend of ours, a geologist, and consultant to the state to check water quality in a river below some precious metals mines. Sometimes on cross country skis, getting their PE and Science all rolled into one.
It was worth every bit of extra effort to me! Good luck whatever you decide!
The field trips and learning opportunities are unlimited. When the kids in my son's class were learning about Colorado History out of a book, we got to camp in a restricted area of Mesa Verde and a private tour with some of the Ute Nation.
My kids all went with a friend of ours, a geologist, and consultant to the state to check water quality in a river below some precious metals mines. Sometimes on cross country skis, getting their PE and Science all rolled into one.
It was worth every bit of extra effort to me! Good luck whatever you decide!
Hi perhaps she is acting out about school because she doesnt want to leave you.
My daughter has a similar problem with her son who has ADHD because my daughter is ill (long story), he hates leaving her and makes every excuse why he shouldnt go to school.
My grandson who has just started uni was really badly bullied at school, and finally my daughter had to take him out of school at 14. He was home schooled by tutor, and passed all his exams, went to college, and then university and working very well (there is a photo of him on my profile proofing that point lol).
I wouldnt make a big deal about her not liking school as she will play up to it, I am sure you dont, but you get my drift.
Point out all the good things she does at school, a positive reinforcement, there must be good things she likes, trips and subjects etc.
It is hard when they want to dig in their heels...........
My daughter has a similar problem with her son who has ADHD because my daughter is ill (long story), he hates leaving her and makes every excuse why he shouldnt go to school.
My grandson who has just started uni was really badly bullied at school, and finally my daughter had to take him out of school at 14. He was home schooled by tutor, and passed all his exams, went to college, and then university and working very well (there is a photo of him on my profile proofing that point lol).
I wouldnt make a big deal about her not liking school as she will play up to it, I am sure you dont, but you get my drift.
Point out all the good things she does at school, a positive reinforcement, there must be good things she likes, trips and subjects etc.
It is hard when they want to dig in their heels...........
LOL, Jibby! I talked to my cousin yesterday after posting this. He and his wife homeschool all 4 of their kids. He said it is a little more work on their part, but totally worth it. They have a very laid back schedule and can take their kids on field trips, etc to see things they are learning about.
I am not sure what program they use, but I know it has a Christian theme to it. In a few weeks, they are taking the kids to the creation museum in either Ohio or Kentucky (wherever it is). It sounds like it would be a lot of fun!
I am not sure what program they use, but I know it has a Christian theme to it. In a few weeks, they are taking the kids to the creation museum in either Ohio or Kentucky (wherever it is). It sounds like it would be a lot of fun!
HI -
Can not help on this question. Only one I home school is Paisley and as long as I hug her and play fetch and stuff her with treats, it is good. LMAO
BUT had to say I am glad someone could give you info
(I don't like kids who bully kids, who are they, I'll talk to them)
Love Jibs
Can not help on this question. Only one I home school is Paisley and as long as I hug her and play fetch and stuff her with treats, it is good. LMAO
BUT had to say I am glad someone could give you info
(I don't like kids who bully kids, who are they, I'll talk to them)
Love Jibs
Thanks a lot! My daughter is like that too. I get comments from her teachers and lots of other adults that she encounters that she is very mature for her age and doesn't really like the immaturity that her peers show. The teacher she has now always tells me that she can tell she spends most of her time around adults.
She does prefer the company of adults. She will play with her friends and neighborhood kids, but she quickly gets frustrated with them when they act like kids, lol! So I don't think that will be a problem.
I do worry about the socialization, though. She does have pretty many friends, but none that she cares about that much. I have thought about homeschooling for a few years and she asks me about it all the time. Like you said, I could get her involved with different groups, sports, dance, music, etc for some socialization.
I just don't know what to do really. School is sooo different now than when I went. I was just talking with my mom and one of my brothers about it today. The things that kids are learning about now in elementary school I didn't learn about until middle school. They have all the i-pod touches, laptops, etc in every class for every student. It's like, when do kids just get to be kids anymore?
Anyhoo, thanks a lot for your help and suggestions. This is exactly what I needed. I am just so frustrated with the whole situation it's nice to hear from someone who has done it before.
Thanks again!
Sarah
She does prefer the company of adults. She will play with her friends and neighborhood kids, but she quickly gets frustrated with them when they act like kids, lol! So I don't think that will be a problem.
I do worry about the socialization, though. She does have pretty many friends, but none that she cares about that much. I have thought about homeschooling for a few years and she asks me about it all the time. Like you said, I could get her involved with different groups, sports, dance, music, etc for some socialization.
I just don't know what to do really. School is sooo different now than when I went. I was just talking with my mom and one of my brothers about it today. The things that kids are learning about now in elementary school I didn't learn about until middle school. They have all the i-pod touches, laptops, etc in every class for every student. It's like, when do kids just get to be kids anymore?
Anyhoo, thanks a lot for your help and suggestions. This is exactly what I needed. I am just so frustrated with the whole situation it's nice to hear from someone who has done it before.
Thanks again!
Sarah
I really wish you could go back and fix errors on this site! I type really fast and make frequent mistakes that are not caught by spell check! Embarrassing!
I home schooled my kids about half of their school years. We have always lived in small towns with only one choice of teachers for each grade level, so if the teacher was not a great one you either lumped it or home schooled.
The grade school years were a lot of fun and pretty easy to do. There are entire "canned curriculum" available for each grade level. Abeka is a great, challenging curriculum; it is a little too religion based for my taste but the kids who use it always seem to score very well on standardized tests. There are some hybrid type online programs where they send you everything you need and even include a computer sometimes, but we tried two of those and didn't care for them. Part of what we liked about homeschooling was the ability to set your own schedule and that was kind of out the window with these plans. Also, my oldest daughter was using the k12 program for 6th grade and had constant issues with needing assistance/clarification from her assigned teacher who would never answer her emails. That was very frustrating and the curriculum was so challenging that for 6th grade English sentence diagramming, it once took my daughter, my MIL (a former English teacher), my SIL (the Valedictorian of her class and now a Nurse Practitioner, and me (I scored at Ivy League levels on my SATs) to get her homework done! We thought that was a bit much for 6th grade English!
We much preferred the customized curriculum that I developed myself by reading the 'state standards' available on the board of education website. I found that frequently, I hit way more of these required points than the teachers did. And my older two kids consistently scored at or above the 90th percentile on the required standardized tests. My youngest daughter is not as much of an academic as her siblings but she consistently scored above average. After I took my job from hell and the kids have been doing public school ever since (except for my son's last semester of his senior year) there scores have all declined a little. Especially in their weakest subjects. My son retook his ACT after that one semester of homeschool and raised his score by 2 points.
However, I have to admit that there has been the problem of them not fitting in greatly with their peers. They are all a little too mature for their age and have more manners than their peers. That can be seen as both a good and bad thing. I LIKE them better than their peers, and adults tell them frequently how much they appreciate the fact that they don't act like their peers.But they were always too short on patience with the immaturity they had to put up with at school to ever really embrace the school social scene. But it doesn't sound like your daughter is really to impressed with that aspect of school life anyway, either. We kept them involved in extracurricular activities to try to combat the social issues, but still, my kids fit in better with adults.
My oldest has found a group of friends she connects with at college, but she was always the 'work horse' in high school. You know, the one who always picked up the slack in group projects or clubs, etc. My son was kind of similar. His best friend was the shop teacher freshly out of school until he took a job closer to home. After that, the new incompetent shop teacher got my son out of class several times a day to help him figure out various problems with the shop equipment. Not too impressive!
I am going to home school my youngest in English only for the remainder of her high school career. That is her weakest subject and the teacher here wants to teach some odd combination of Honors English/ Revolutionary History. She has been on a kick all year with making them read gory depressing books about various civil wars and revolutions and then assigning college type papers with very little guidance. She is getting frustrated and a bad attitude and I agree, that is not something I want to deal with!
Good luck whatever you decide to do!
The grade school years were a lot of fun and pretty easy to do. There are entire "canned curriculum" available for each grade level. Abeka is a great, challenging curriculum; it is a little too religion based for my taste but the kids who use it always seem to score very well on standardized tests. There are some hybrid type online programs where they send you everything you need and even include a computer sometimes, but we tried two of those and didn't care for them. Part of what we liked about homeschooling was the ability to set your own schedule and that was kind of out the window with these plans. Also, my oldest daughter was using the k12 program for 6th grade and had constant issues with needing assistance/clarification from her assigned teacher who would never answer her emails. That was very frustrating and the curriculum was so challenging that for 6th grade English sentence diagramming, it once took my daughter, my MIL (a former English teacher), my SIL (the Valedictorian of her class and now a Nurse Practitioner, and me (I scored at Ivy League levels on my SATs) to get her homework done! We thought that was a bit much for 6th grade English!
We much preferred the customized curriculum that I developed myself by reading the 'state standards' available on the board of education website. I found that frequently, I hit way more of these required points than the teachers did. And my older two kids consistently scored at or above the 90th percentile on the required standardized tests. My youngest daughter is not as much of an academic as her siblings but she consistently scored above average. After I took my job from hell and the kids have been doing public school ever since (except for my son's last semester of his senior year) there scores have all declined a little. Especially in their weakest subjects. My son retook his ACT after that one semester of homeschool and raised his score by 2 points.
However, I have to admit that there has been the problem of them not fitting in greatly with their peers. They are all a little too mature for their age and have more manners than their peers. That can be seen as both a good and bad thing. I LIKE them better than their peers, and adults tell them frequently how much they appreciate the fact that they don't act like their peers.But they were always too short on patience with the immaturity they had to put up with at school to ever really embrace the school social scene. But it doesn't sound like your daughter is really to impressed with that aspect of school life anyway, either. We kept them involved in extracurricular activities to try to combat the social issues, but still, my kids fit in better with adults.
My oldest has found a group of friends she connects with at college, but she was always the 'work horse' in high school. You know, the one who always picked up the slack in group projects or clubs, etc. My son was kind of similar. His best friend was the shop teacher freshly out of school until he took a job closer to home. After that, the new incompetent shop teacher got my son out of class several times a day to help him figure out various problems with the shop equipment. Not too impressive!
I am going to home school my youngest in English only for the remainder of her high school career. That is her weakest subject and the teacher here wants to teach some odd combination of Honors English/ Revolutionary History. She has been on a kick all year with making them read gory depressing books about various civil wars and revolutions and then assigning college type papers with very little guidance. She is getting frustrated and a bad attitude and I agree, that is not something I want to deal with!
Good luck whatever you decide to do!
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