Boyfriend of 2 years has finished the relationship and is now saying I have BPD

[PloddingOnAgain]

I’m gay and been with my partner for 2 years. Up until a month ago we lived together at his mums house. For most of the relationship he’s accused me of having casual sexual partners, and plenty of them, as well as photos which are apparently of me in many compromising positions (I’ve checked the photos and they’re not me- which I knew anyway). I hold down a full time job in a healthcare setting. I work nights and days on long shifts. He thinks that I take time off work - sneak out of work all to get some sexual gratification. This isn’t true as I have tried to explain to him. I cannot just leave the unit I work on as I have several infants to look after. He is still adamant that I’m playing away. So I opened my phone Location for him so he could see where I was all the time. This wasn’t enough. I tried to prove with time sheets, rotas even FaceTiming on my breaks so he knew I was in work. Only to be accused of leaving my phone there and having another phone that the calls go to. This is not true either. I wasn’t aware of him having schizophrenia until I saw it on the screen at the doctors by sheer accident. It stipulated he was diagnosed at 30. I never discussed this with him because I didn’t want him to feel under pressure or uncomfortable about talking to me, as I thought he should have. However after another accusation now of going to hotels for these casual flings I blurted out about what I’d seen and he tried to say that he didn’t have it. He doesn’t have any medication but smokes a lot of dope. Now we have split up and I’ve gone home but I’ve been trying to tell him I love him and care about him and wouldn’t cheat on him and he’s now told me that I have category b personality disorder. What can I do to help him. I’m worried so much and hardly getting any sleep. We are still arguing although it’s by text and email as he’s blocked me when he’s said what he wants.

[drifter0213]

yes its up to him to admit the problem peeps with SZ have relationships problems for me I cant be happy cant be sad so I don't want to be pleased by my girlfriend but I want to please her go figure :)

[PloddingOnAgain]

He was diagnosed with SZ at 30. He did take meds and took himself off them. He should have gone to 2 appointments with his psychiatrist late last year and about a month ago. However he told me he doesn’t need to go. He’s also said that one of the professionals he saw told him he could not change and he’s adamant that he’s worked to change himself.  The past 4 weeks has been absolute hell. I think when it came to light I should have broached the subject instead I didn’t - only because I didn’t want him to feel uneasy. It’s hard to get him to see. I think he’s having a crisis and it’s breaking my heart because I know that this is his SZ and I know that he won’t admit it. After all he keeps saying there’s nothing wrong with him. We have split up now and I’ve moved out and everyday I tell him I love him and I’m here for him. But he thinks I’m out to gain something from it. He also says I’m only out to gain from my friendships and that I like to take all the control. I’m a naturally caring person. I work with premature babies and he knows that. I feel like he thinks I’m out to persecute him. I just don’t know what else I can do. The constant accusations are really grinding me down. He’ll cause arguments while I’m in work. Says what he wants (which is usually what a bad nasty person I am) and then he’ll block me so I can’t respond. That’s then gets me all stressed out while I’m working.

[drifter0213]

SZ is hard to diagnosed I was 36 he's paranoid and its up to him to seek help only a medical doctor who can also be a psychiatrist meds are a must it will help in the long run they treat SZ with anti/depressants/ psychotic pills bed time meds to sleep etc group therapy helps a lot no alcohol or illegal drugs LGBT supporter here hope this helps :)