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Boyfriend claims to be naturally sterile...

My boyfriend and I are having a bit of an issue. Of course, I don't buy that "you won't get pregnant baby" crap for one second. But, what is the science behind it? We have just started having sex without a condom, but he insists that I won't get pregnent because:

              1.) He is 31 with no children, has had unprotected sex with many woman during his life (many of them were very fertile and had multiple children already), and NONE of them got pregnant.
              2.) He masturbates at least twice per day (every day) and his doctor said that this reduces his sperm count tremendously.
              3.) He has 2 "X" chromosomes.
        
The last thing I need in my life is another human being besides myself to take care of. I just can't do it, and neither can he right now.

I'm sure there's something else I'm missing in that list, but what's the deal here?? Should I dare take the chance and continue to have sex without a condom? I'm 21, and was a virgin before I met him so obviously this has to be cleared up but I don't know who else to ask and I don't have health insurance and can't afford to ask a doctor face to face because around here, if you don't have the money, they don't have the time.

Birth control in pill/patch/etc. form is out of the question. I refuse to take them and I won't even take an aspirin unless my arm is nearly broken, lol. I'd consider something like that Nuvaring but again, I can barely afford to buy my own food (the life of a college student).

I'd appreciate any info on this and also if any of you know any links or can direct me to an area on a website to give me more in, that would be helpful as well. Thanks!!
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definitely use condoms!!!!! if he's having unprotected sex with lots of women....that is a big red flag for std's!!!! and don't believe him. until he gets his sperm mobility tested and you see the lab report for yourself do not take his word for it! he could have kids out there and just not know it OR he's just gotten extremely lucky.
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I'm the same way health insurance-wise. I'm a broke college student too. haha  Find a women's health and wellness or planned parenthood near you.  I don't know what's in the state you live in, but check it out.  You can get BC for free.  If pills aren't your thing, then get the depo shot. there's a crap load of  other protection out there.

If he's not willing to wrap it, then you can tell him to stuff it.
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Go on the pill if you do not want to get pregnant. Do no trust anyone with your future if kids are not part of that future.  Use condoms if you do not want to get HIV, Herpes or any other STDs.
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I agree, if you aren't ready to have children, you should absolutely be using condoms.  I would like to add, if he has had unprotected sex with multiple partners, and those women have had "multiple children"  they also had unprotected sex with multiple partners.  You should be using condoms with this man to protect yourself from stds.  

Many men masturbate and have children.  This isn't something to take into consideration when considering this, as is his past with other women.  

If you are going to insist on having unprotected sex with this man, you need to see his physical papers that state he is impotent and why, and a clean bill of health as far as stds are concerned.  
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Hi, I would like to say that in any case you should not take any chances. It should not matter you whether he is eligible to become a father or not, you should think about your life. I would say why you should play with your precious life, and go for unwanted abortion if you become pregnant.
Tell him to use condoms if you are not willing for any other precautions and then enjoy sexual life.
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