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Debate: is watching porn cheating?

I know everyone has their own opinions, I am curious what you guys think.  Is it ok to masturbate watching porn, or is that a form of betraying your significant other?  Or is it circumstancial, and up to the people in each individual relationship to decide together?
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The correct answer is so obvious. NO
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I think its ok as long as the other partner is not being left out intentionally ...ie.one partner is mad at the other for not wanting to fool around and is using it as to say **** u ill masterbate watching porn ...i dont need you ..type of sernario. !!
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ya, that sounds about right. Thanks for posting.  
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I made a point of making videos WITH my husband so he could use those instead of waching the ****** on the internet. Today I discovered that it doesn't matter. He's going to do it anyway and I'll be honest with you, it feels like cheating.
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I made videos too! I feel like when he jerks off to other women he is getting off to the idea of ******* then, which is cheating. You shouldn’t be cumming to the idea of cheating on your spouse. That in itself is cheating to me.
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Two years ago i read a study that watching porn while having sex is a sexual dysfunction that affects many men born in the 1990ies, The reason was simple, they grew up with easy access to internet porn, when they entered adulthood the habit had become second nature so they were not able to have normal sex with real girls, when the porn was missing they were unable to ejaculate and some were unable to achieve and maintain an erection.

Porn is not cheating, those guys do it because its the only way they are able to have sex.
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losingmymind,

i totally agree with you, my fiance' has been watching porn almost daily even after i told him it hurt me.  He said he stopped after i told him that but I know he hasn't which hurt me more because I know he's lying to me now.  I also know hes hiding in the bathroom with me home and masturbating.  I am a VERY SEXUAL person who loves every aspect of intimacy and sex. I never turn it down, love snuggling and trying new things. I don;t understand the need if I;m right there and willing.  
He has all the classic symptoms of a Porn Addict (If you haven't read about them look it up) he's withdrawn from me , less sex and touching (with me) its all about HIM and I have to initiate.  
Do I think its cheating YES. Sex and Intimacy should be with your significant other, if you are seeking it elsewhere then why be in a relationship?  Get out instead of hurting someone else!

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I'm in your situation. He tells me he hasn't watched it for ages but know he's lying about it! He rarely touches me anymore and it's always me that's gotta go in for a snuggle or ask for a kiss etc. I wanna scream and shout at him about it but he always turns it on me and says I shouldn't be upset because yes he's with me. but doesn't come to me when he feels the urge and that hurts me massively!
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My husband works on the road and we only see each other a week out of each month. He looks at porn and masturbates to it but is also very open abt it. I'm not mad abt it. I'd rather him do that than actually cheat on me.
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