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Disinterest in sex, lack of arousal and feeling

Hi, I'm hoping someone here can help me. I am a 24 y/o female. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, and he is amazing. He's so kind and generous and treats me so well. He really loves me and I love him, there's no doubt in my mind about that. However in the last six months or so, I have been feeling completely disinterested in sex. I don't get aroused or get wet naturally when he touches me or kisses me. I can still orgasm from oral sex but even after that I have no interest in sex. It doesn't even physically feel the same as it used to when we're doing it. I used to love sex and was horny all the time, but my only other real point of comparison is my sex life with my previous boyfriend when I was 19/20. I was always horny and wanting sex. I don't know what's gone wrong. The thought of ending things with him makes me so upset because I love him, and I don't know whether the relationship is the problem, or whether there could be some medical reason for why I'm feeling like this. He really is the perfect boyfriend and I do find him attractive and we have a very intimate relationship, but I am really struggling with this problem as o was very sexual with my last boyfriend.

Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated, I'm at my wits end. Thanks x
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1029273 tn?1472231494
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Hi,

  Maybe the reason why you cant achieve satisfaction in your current relationship might be due to a few things: do you feel comfortable with him; are you relaxed around him; and/or does he truly turn you on? If you don't feel comfortable around him, or feel no interest with him, this is sign for you to move on without him. Perhaps you should spend some time being single; think about what you want, instead of spending time w/ somebody who is not quite up to your needs ~ there's nothing wrong with that...
Good Luck
1667242 tn?1487950547
Are your periods regular? Are you on any form of contraception? Are you or were you ever on an antidepressant or brain chemistry altering medication. Do you or did you ever use recreational drugs?
139792 tn?1498585650
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The above questions are important and may be causative factors leading to current situation. You may try Female deer exercise. Google it for details.  Just try for a month.
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