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Excessive Fingering and boob pressing..:(

Im a 20 year old girl. i have had sex with my boyfriend alot of times and we make out on a regular basis. however he fingers me alot almost every alternate day and it is pretty harsh and wild. it feels nice when it is done but pains later on. is this safe? will i face any problems in the future due to this fingering? also i masturbate some times. am i safe? is this natural? also he licks my vagina is this safe? how many times a week can we have sex which will not cause any problems later on. also  he presses my boobs and *** alot. i feel personally that my boobs have become larger and hips also have grown bigger is it because of what i am doing physically? pls advice me and answer all my questions. i am really concerned..
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If you are concerned your hips are getting wider and breasts are getting larger, I suggest you take a PREGNANCY test.
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or, y'know, shes just going through puberty. your hips only get wider in the very late stages of pregnancy, sometimes even during labour.
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Agree with ShyTeen.   Unless you truly like it, roughness is not a good thing in the long run.  A light touch can often be more effective anyway.
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thnks all..:)
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It is okay but be gentle while fingering.better use lubes or ky gell. It is okay to masturbate but be gentle and well manicured. Licking vagina if it is cleaned is pleasuring for both. Use a vwash. Keep going and pressing breasts be gentle .Keep enjoying
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somebody pls reply..
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2 things.
1. I have had partners like that too, and I had to SHOW THEM, aka Train them, to stimulate me the way I like it.
Btw, Playing with yourself has many health benefits actually. The orgasms I mean. But LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. It will tell you when it has had enough and needs to rest.
2. I don't always have KY on me, but on nights when I am out of spit and he is out of spit for lube I take a big swig of water (water bottle) and keep a little in mouth to give head or spit on the hand.
The key thing is to communicate to him. Say "let's try..." or "I want you to... to me" capisce?
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This goes vice-versa also. I know that if a women jacks off male's penis, we can get rashes and burns also because the other person does not know the sensitivity of their partner. Only u can know how sensitive you are. I have this problem where my hands sometimes dry up in the winter but during intercourse I always put on some baby lotion on my hands to protect my partner's skin.

Tell your boyfriend to wear lotion when fingering you, and tell him to do it slowly and lightly. And yes it's okay to masturbate/finger/lick the area and many times. Just wash up afterwards. You can have sex as my times as u like, no such thing as too much!

Good luck!
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Lotion will cause infection! Hands need to be washed nothing on them!
I agree on everything you said I just wanted to let you know as a woman lotion being entered into the vagina is not good, that can cause an infection itself nothing should be entered into the vagina that is a lotion based or anything like that, lotion has chemicals that can cause some harm or infection. I would just stick to using a lubricant or a water-based lubricant.
Agree on this point - do NOT use lotion for vaginal or clitoral stimulation. There are plenty of sex lubes on the market that are specifically designed for this purpose & are safe to use for these areas. I will add that lotion is OK for males because it's not being used internally, only externally, so for that purpose, it's OK. One caution, though - there are guys who like to do 'sounding' (inserting rods, etc. into the urethra for stimulation), and for that purpose, you must stick with lubes or KY Jelly...
So true!!
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i like it.. it doesnt pain then but does later.. any advise pls? n will it cause me any health problems in the future??
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Is 'Boob pressing' related to flower pressing;) lol
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All your sexual activities are normal. As a rule of thumb, when you feel uncomfortable,you tell your partner to stop or to go easy.If you can have proper balance, you can enjoy sex better. For masturbation do not be harsh with clitoris. Go slowly around the clitoris. Rubbing it harshly and directly can numb it or injure the nerves. Do not stop breathing while doing it.You will get suggestion from other members.Visit the forum again to get few more suggestion.
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Make sure your boyfriend's hands are clean and well manicured(no hand nails, rough skin, etc) so he doesn't scratch inside your vagina. You don't want to get an infection. If you are still new to doing these types of activities, it could be that your body isn't used to this type of stimulation and that is causing you the pain. The physical act of what you are doing should not cause problems later on, but you are risking getting an infection if you are not careful and that can cause lasting problems if not dealt with properly.
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As you have mentioned that you are only 18 years old,so this is very normal between you and your boyfriend.As concerned with fingering, I want to tell you that you should be careful while your bf is doing it . You should stop it immediately if you are suffering pains but if you are enjoying then keep it up it's a nice feeling and 100% normal and safe. But your bf should not finger you he might **** you if he has that kind of ability and if not then I am here always for your help
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Actually fingerprint doesn't cause any thing bad but make sure his fingers is clean when it do that to you, you can have sex anytimes a days you want there is no regulation for that or even amount of time but make sure that he didn't press your boob that much because this organ is very delicate...
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If it doesn't feel pleasurable than you need to let him know so he can become better at what he does. Also make sure he don't got nails because that makes it hurt more and could scratch you up.
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Hi men seem to think that they can just go at you like a jackhammer and that you should be screaming with pleasure but you’re actually screaming with pain!! It’s great that he wants to touch you and hopefully he’s doing it to give you pleasure rather than just warming himself up in the process! Anyway he might have learnt this way of touching a women through the rubbish porn that is out there that’s mostly for men with the women acting like they love all that horrid rough stuff - crazy ! But if he really cares about you he will get to know your body and what makes you feel good! With  A slow hand, you’ll feel more pleasure than pain... he needs to be guided by you and you can show him by touching yourself and touching him more gently, then later if you both want to a more firm thrust or rub might be called for! Another thing is most women dont *** by vaginal sex alone  and need the clit to be stimulated and the breasts to be fondled ( and oral stimulation from him too) so hopefully he will learn to do it right for you; men need to be taught by women about a women’s body not by other men or crap porn sites! Hope you both had a good time in the end?
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Every woman is different lol. It's an individual factor, not gender specific.
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Anytime something is uncomfortable it should stop. The man should be sensitive to the lady's comfort. Most women don't like rough fingering. Pleasing your lady should always be first in a man's mind. You should let him know what you don't feel comfortable with.
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Tell him you`re NOT a porn star. Soft & easy does it. Tell him what & how you want it or he ain`t gettin more.
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