Female Compulsive Masturbation

[deardear]

I’m pretty sure I have a problem with masturbation.  I masturbate between 5 and 9 times a day.  Probably closer to 8-9 times.  I can’t control how much I get turned on and the compulsion to masturbate every time to relieve the arousal.  I masturbate once in the morning when I get up every day, I never don’t do this.  I sometimes masturbate on my way to work in my car and about 2 or 3 times, on average, at work.  Being at work is my biggest problem, I’m getting to the point where I can’t really concentrate because I’m consumed by thoughts of when can I get away to do it, where can I do it.  I feel compelled to do this at the very least 2 times and have done it as many as 6 times in one day.  I am getting to the point where it is controlling my workday.  I then masturbate every day, no exceptions, in my car on the way home and I then usually masturbate twice in the evening and I have in the past woke up in the middle of the night more than once to relieve myself.  I can’t control this any longer and need help, I have no idea why I am so aroused and aside from that I feel I should still be able to control my compulsion to masturbate every time I am aroused like this but I can’t I have to do it and it is getting more frequent and the necessity is way higher.

[plshlpm]

I have the same problem. I started multiple orgasims at 13. Since then it comes and goes. I get stuck in my apartment for weeks. Masturbating at least every two hours. And I come at least four times. It feels like everything down there is super sensitive. Almost tingly all the time. I would love to b able to control it. I read something about another woman who had the same problem. When a doctor examined her when she was like this. Her clit, labia even uteris were changed. She was examined when she was feeling normal also. Women are hardwired to have multiple orgasims. And to want to procreate. I think sometimes it just gets out of control. Yes this is not a disease to complain about like cancer. Until u start losing jobs, family, all the stuff that means anything. It is dibilitating. Sorry if I don't help u but know that I know what your going through.

[bubveb]

I don't think it's weird. Maybe a little excessive. I sometimes masturbate 6 times a day. Do it at work. I get  very aroused easily. I can control it pretty well and I've gone weeks without masturbating. In fact, the more will power and the longer I go without the more pleasurable it is when I do or have sex. Also, the world becomes so beautiful and everything feels so good.

[Smh1987]

I sort of have this problem. I'm not sure how to explain it. I don't have the urge to masturbate a lot. The problem comes when I do masturbate and then I get this feeling and I can't stop. It lasts all day. It's like a tingling feeling and I have to keep touching myself even when I don't want to. It's horrible. Sometimes if I take a Benadryl or an anxiety med it will eventually stop. I also can't achieve an orgasm with my partner which is why I still occasionally masturbate otherwise I wouldn't at all to prevent this from happening. I don't know what to call this or who to ask for help. It's lonely.

[Jubilee0313]

@Smh1987 FINALLY!! Every time this happens I start looking up why it does bc it sucks but I never see one just like me until you. I literally won't masturbate for a month or more maybe even 2 to 3 but then I do sometimes out of boredom. There will be minimal urge even just maybe thinking about it a little more in the previous week. The problem is once I start I can't stop. It's been over five hours this last time, and they're not ever complete feeling or that great but I will have up to ... well hundreds of mini ones.... I'm broken and I don't know why

[kammi98]

This is me as well! I can't stop when I first start. And after an hour or so, I'm not able to get complete orgasms anymore, there are just constant tingles and these mini-orgasms every 10 seconds or so! Thank God I'm not alone

[Dalubaba]

You cannot supress sexual urge by force. For controlling the urge, learn to do 'deep breathing', abdominal breathing' and female deer exercise. Then practice them regularly. Slowly you will develop strong will and will be satisfied with lower frequency of masturbation. You can also learn kegel exercise. Google these words and learn all techniques. whenever there is unwanted sexual urge do  a deep breathing or abdominal breathing. The effect of the above exercises will be pronounced within a month. Do not worry, you will return to normal sexual health.

[Princessmay81]

I thought something was wrong with me for the longest! I have been doing this since i was a kid. It has gotten a lot more frequent in the past 10 years. Im not sure if this stems from me being sexually abused when i was a child or exactly why i do it. It is so frustrating! Some say try to do it less but for me its not that easy. I literally cant control it! It happens out of nowhere! Sometimes it takes me 2 hours to climax, sometimes i climax 10 times in an hour.i have never had an orgasm with anyone ever without help from myself. Ive bever talked about this because i thought there wasnt many ladies with this issue! I hate it! It has gotten to be every single day. It is so hard to not just do it. I can be folding laundry and that urge comes and sometimes i try to get my mind off of it but that seems to make it worse. Maybe ill try those deer exercises. I just dont know. But i dont feel like such a basket case knowing im not alone!

[geno666777]

my ex gf...was the same as you are. but at least you admit you were sexually abused. i am sure now.. but your admission..that this is why she can not orgasm with her partner unless she masterbates too

[Dalubaba]

Yes, you need an expert's help. It seems you are not enjoyin sex. In case if you really enjoy once a day, you may have full satisfaction and frequency may get reduced. for this you may try female deer exercise. The technique looks like a masturbation, however if you enjoy it in a straight manner without guilt, you can reduce frequency.

[Dalubaba]

Google Female deer exercise, learn it and practice it once or twice a day. You may also seek medical help.

[murray123her]

How about in my case? i can't stop watching porns while masturbating, im only 18 yrs old. and im imagining it also with girls im a lesbian.

[gymdandee]

I would like to be driving next to you! I'm turning 71, I started masturbating at about age 9 or 10. I'm married and either have sex with my wife or masturbate 5-6 times per week. We sometimes masturbate together.
I've had my testosterone checked last year and it's like a 30 year olds.
I truly think it's because of good diet and exercise.

[lozzasmith]

I think you either suffer from an addiction to masturbation or have the psychological disorder of OCD.Google OCD and read the symptoms. If you feel like you can relate to the disorder find a qualified psychologists and explain your situation. With therapy and understanding your issues you can change them. You seem very intelligent and open to understanding your problems so I think this will be good for you. If you do not feel like you can relate to OCD I would agree you have an addiction. Seek a psychologist for that as well.

[Walter_from_Malta]

I don't think it's a decease. sexuality varies with hormones and hormones vary with age and life experiences and sometimes even with various foods or meds..
if shared with your partner it could actually be fun to simultaneously masturbate if one finds an understanding partner or group of close friends. There are much worse health conditions one can worry about than simply masturbating 10 times a day, in my opinion.

[Walter_from_Malta]

I live with a female who continuously masturbates at night. She thinks i don't know and tries to hide it but i've notices it and to act normal. However, it is now effective our sex life....at times she prefers to masturbate alone than have sex and this makes me sexually frustrated and felt unwanted.

Possible solutions are various, my friends tell me to just leave....other encourage me to find a secret sex buddy and others want mt to tell her and face reality....but she denies it every-time I mention the subject.

Yet, sometimes she refuses sex....i pretend to sleep and she starts to masturbate continuously some 8 or more times. I refuse to understand that this could be better than actual sex and definitely kills my personal sexual esteem.

So females in this situation should take this into consideration that even though I love my partner i might have to just leave one day soon....and since she denies all this, I can't even justify my actions. Sad, very sad but reality is not a fairytale with happy endings.

[Kitaine06]

Is she actually mastubating or just sleeping with her hands down there. Just like some men are known to do...women do that too...

[heretohelpforyou]

I think that it is possible that you have a condition called persistent genital arousal disorder. It can arise from many things such as nerve damage, hormone problems, or cysts. I would talk to a doctor. A urologist is typically the doctor to see for this issue. try to find one that specializes in female urology. I have had this condition for about 5 years and have greatly seen an improvement with treatment. Mine was caused by a cyst in my urethra. good luck!

[Dalubaba]

A good suggestion.

[StealthWealth]

or just enjoy it!  Even riding in the car, the vibrations get me going!

[harl3ypr1ncess85]

i am 30 and suffer from this. i didnt realize it was an actual disease until watching the tv series Sons of Anatrchy. lol. i always thought i was alone and weird for this. id like to control it better tho. if anyone has advce please share thanks

[Dalubaba]

The above post is a mult-pronged solution. If you follow it, and go deeper in research , you will be able to solve your problems. Wish you a Happy and Successful New year.

[Moriarty1]

I think you should look at what arouses you. Are you thinking sexual thoughts like intimacy and intercourse? Or are you focused on the climax an instant self gratification that comes with it? The reason i ask this is I've been in a similar pattern myself a few years ago where my problem was psychological. Boredom/depression and other negative feelings led me towards addictions. I didn't smoke drink alcohol or do drugs, but i loved to masturbate. I just became a spiral: Id have sex, 20mins later think about the orgasm, and masturbate, then again about a half hour later. This would continue until i was sore. I even enjoyed the slightly tired/ painful feeling in my penis after doing this several times....i was obsessed(yes I have done it while driving to). Once i changed my bad life circumstances this problem automatically disappeared and now I'm down to once every 2-3 days just so i can think normally.

So perhaps something is out of place in your life and your masturbation is a pick-me-up that's out of control a little. I think there is nothing wrong with masturbation, after all its a wonderful act of self love but it can't replace a well balanced life. If you're constantly thinking about sex there maybe a chemical imbalance after operation or just extremely horny. If you're focused on the climax it maybe a constant need of self gratification

Not sure about solutions to the problem. Perhaps drive to work a different way. this may stimulate your mind elsewhere. Change jobs, ask for more responsibility in your current place of employment. Exercise a lot to make yourself tired. Cold shower or cold bath. Get someone to teach you correct meditation techniques  

[Dalubaba]

you may Goodle the following words and do any exercise you feel comfortable with.
Abdominal breathing.
Microcosmic orbit- circulating sexual urge around it.
make deer exercise.
There are many other techniques to reduce sexual urge.

[aruhty]

I'm 21, Male i feel guilty every time I masturbate i cannot control it even i have done it on work, i get excited on porn and then start to masturbate, sometimes i even put my penis in between my legs and squeeze them and I *** sometimes 4 times repeatedly I think I'm a sex addict. And need help

[davidohno]

i am 53 paralysed, but still enjoy to masturbate, even though my feeling & sensation there is lower because of my spinal injury.  also enjoy looking at circ scars on web or cam...

[anonymousWoman]

I am female, in my 30's and have masturbated a lot since I was about 10. I go through phases, sometimes I go for a few weeks without doing it, other times I do it 5-10 times a day. It feels awesome, and whilst I enjoy sex with my partner, I just know where to touch myself to have really good orgasms. I enjoy both using a dildo or just clitoral stimulation on its own. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but if you can't stop yourself from doing it at work or in the car, maybe you need to talk to a doctor or someone.

Alternatively, do you maybe secretly want to get caught? The idea of someone getting turned on when they catch you masturbating can be really hot. If so, maybe there are some online communities for that.

[Dalubaba]

The above method is for the male. You may try the method if you find it convenient you may practice it.
Female Deer exercise is good for female. Google the phrase and practice if you want.It will be a healthier practice.

[Dalubaba]

It is good that you have a very good sexual drive. This strong urge can be used to enhance your mental capability and you can change your life. Circulating sexual energy(urge) around microcosmic orbit. Google the micro cosmic orbit and learn how to circulate. Regular practice will be enjoyable.  

[nitu9772]

i am male iam doing masturbation for long time untill now now iam getting headache while masturbating pls help me how control it

[fingerfiend]

Im the same way. I often find myself trying to fond ways to get alone so that i can masturbate. If im home alone for most of the day, i normally spend it masturbating and watching porn on my phone or computer. I seem to always be aroused and fantasizing about sex pretty much all the time. Even typing this comment is making me so aroused that i feel like im going to explode. I have been this way since i was about 10 yrs old,but i have no desire to change this. I love having orgasms and the feeling of euphoria when im fondling myself.

[Dalubaba]

Female deer exercise is good to overcome the urge. It has many advantages. Google the word Female deer exercise. It will give you many health benefits. It is from taoist yoga.