Female Compulsive masturbation

[CarissaH]

I'll try to keep this short....but
I'm religious, or I have grown up so....and I am a virgin.
I have been fingered.

But I have masturbated since I was 18, and I am 20.5 right now.
(I did stop for 6 months)

I have body dysmorphia, and it helps me burn calories, because I gave up running after I got depressed.

I used to just cross my legs and squeeze...but now I put a blanket or pillow between them.

I can masturbate 1-6 times a day ranging from 20 minutes to 3/4 hours. It *****.
Should I just have sex, or get a dildo.

The way I am stimulated, it hits my clitoris rarely (that's the 2nd step)
but It massages the outside of my vagina...but I feel it inside.

IDK, I feel like literally the only girl in the world with this problem...and the way I hole the blankets/pillows hurts my hands and it's been hurting my legs for a while. :/ I need to find a better way...but I figure I'll either just get addicted to that...or not be satisfied and do that WITH this.

ANYBODY, PLEASE!!!!

And don't just say have sex...give reasons.

[ojsam]

Great 40 yrs!!. You still have a lot of  satisfaction in life together. You reflect happiness.,,:)  Health issues at this age is a part of life. My wife just got through with knee replacement. Went well!!
I do wish you the very best, denny

[jemma116]

How wonderful.
Hubby and I celebrated 40 years of marriage in April and we courted for 2 years before.
We still have a loving and satisfying relationship too, just a shame our health has deteriorated with age!

best wishes

[ojsam]

Thanks for your nice input.  We have been married for over 48 yrs. and I could not be happier with our relationship. It took several books and a lot of talking together to get it to  this point. We still enjoy talking every night  before going to sleep about many things and sometimes about sex.:)   Thanks again, ojsam

[jemma116]

Thank you ojsam.

:)

I hope your wife has got over her stigma that she grew up with and is now enjoying having a loving and pleasurable intimate relationship with you.

I wish you a long a happy marriage.

Best wishes.

[ojsam]

You answered this input very well and the advise you gave was right on  target.. My wife grew up with the same kind of direction as you described and she , like you, has found that sex is very  pleasurable. I appreciate a person that can always stay focus on the questions that are ask on these type of forms.  

[jemma116]

As a young person I was taught that it was wrong to touch my own body and I grew up with a terrible complex about that  and as an older person I know that way I was taught was the wrong way.

It is normal to have sexual feelings.  If you like to give yourself pleasure and reach a climax there is nothing wrong with that.  
I agree with ojsam that it is nobody's business why you masturbate.  

As an adult if someone cannot satisfy their sexual urges by having sex with the opposite sex (preferably a partner), then there is nothing wrong with satisfying that urge (it also helps to release pent up frustration) manually or by other means.  

There are different types of vibrators and dildos on the market, and it is up to you whether you wish to explore and experiment which one you prefer.  Do also get a lubricating gel to help you.  There are different ones on the market too.  You can purchase these in the superstores or on line as well as the vibrators and dildos and dildos that have clitoral stimulators, if you feel too embarrassed to go to your sex shop.  They come packaged discreetly so no one will know what you have had delivered (unless they open the box without your permission).

Have fun.
Best wishes.

[ojsam]

It is your decision to masturbate to relieve  your sex drive feelings.  I agree that no one should direct you to just have sex, but to answer your question about masturbating without pain and finding a better way; I say that you should look into a simple vibrator that will stimulate the ciitoris  directly. In our marriage in last 5 years have started using a small vibrator in our sessions and she has found that it really gives her much pleasure in reaching climaxes. BTW, you should not have to answer any one in this forum on why you masturbate. That was not your question.

[amethyst1991]

I masturbate a lot. averaging 4 days a wk. Make sure your hands are clean. I fingered myself too hard now I have to see a doctor and get lab tests done. There is nothing wrong with doing it if you feel like it.

[Vance2335]

To have sex is each persons decision and no one here should tell you to just have sex. Why do you masterbate?