My boyfriend and I are both virgins and have recently tried to have sex but could not seem to get his penis inserted. At first I wasn't really concerned with it, figuring we're just having normal issues, but I started searching for what the problem could be and ran up on something called vaginismus. From what I can gather it is suppose to cause pain when inserting a tampon, finger, or penis. I have always been able to insert tampons with no pain, and my boyfriend has fingered me, for a short period of time only, and it has only caused mild discomfort. I'm assuming the fingering part is normal considering I'm a virgin. But why can't we get his penis to go in? How likely is it that I have vaginismus? What is the problem? Please help, I've really been freaking myself out with all of this. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 so I don't want to get my mom to take me to a gynecologist to get this checked out. Can you please just tell me if I have any reason to worry and how I can makeour sexual experience easier?