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How do I stop Premature Ejaculation?

I hope others have experienced this... I was A virgin till I was 25. I used to masturbate and did get girls to go down on me. I was never able to last a really long time. But recently after a drought when she wasnt in the mood,  I was able to mentally work myself to orgasm just by hugging my woman in bed and rubbing against her. But now, anytime I rub, touch or go down, I cum, and it's over before it even gets started. It's like I unlocked something in my brain. It's not impotence, but I'm a one shooter and its over for the night. Please help! I'm miserable, and shes frustrated. I can't even touch her ANYWHERE for any significant time.
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First, you want to make sure there isn't anything physically happening here. That's not likely, but it's important to rule that out first.

There are some medications that doctors can prescribe, and some techniques you can try, but if you are literally having orgasms the second you touch, some might be more challenging than others.

When you're alone, there are some things you can do that can help lengthen this. Do you come that fast when you're alone? What happens if you orgasm first and then just spend time touching her? It might take some time to retrain your brain, but intimacy isn't only penetration.

Here are some other tips too -https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/188527.php
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I've tried the start stop method, but once I even get close to the point of no return, it's too late. I did seek help, but all traditional doctors did was prescribe Viagra ( which was ineffective). I went to a mens clinic, and they prescribed me Tri-Mix. That has been the only option. It doesn't fix the premature ejaculation, it just allows me to stay erect after it. Couple problems though.... it takes around 20 minutes to be completely effective so it runs spontaneity. 2. It's a NEEDLE SHOT in my penis. 3. I'm stuck with an erection that lasts AT LEAST 4 hours, regardless of how many times I cum.
All I want is a normal sex experience. I'm early forties and my girl is just a few years younger.
When you went to the clinic, did they do any kind of exam? Any testing? Anything to rule out a physical problem?

Listen, I don't have a penis, but I think someone would have to pay me some decent money for me to put a needle in it, unless it was curing some infection or something.

How did you train yourself to do this? Any chance of training yourself back to the other way?

The start and stop method may take some time. Would your girl help you with it?

Here's an article that describes the squeeze method - https://familydoctor.org/condition/premature-ejaculation/ It's similar, but might be worth trying.
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As auntiejessi says, make sure there’s no physical prblm, altho that doesn’t sound likely. Normally, the start/stop method while masturbating allows you to learn to gauge when you’re getting close & then stop, allow yourself to sort of ‘cool down’, then resume. The squeeze technique can also be helpful. Sometimes premature ejaculation can be related to anxiety - you may just be putting too much pressure on yourself to ‘perform’ & becoming over-anxious could cause it. You should NOT have to be resorting to TriMix injections for this issue.

BTW - I’m a prostate cancer patient & the surgery (07/31/18) damaged the nerves that control erection, ED meds did not help because nerves were not functioning, so I started on TriMix inj’s last Mar. It sounds pretty scary talking about sticking a needle in your penis, but a very fine insulin needle is used & the pain isn’t as bad as you’d think - altho I still don’t really like doing it. The prblm is, if those tissues aren’t regularly flooded with blood (as during a normal erection), they gradually turn to smthg similar to scar tissue, and then even once the nerves have recovered, you still wdn’t be able to achieve erections, so I’m doing this as ‘penile rehab’. That sounds weird but this is the new thinking about helping guys regain their sexual function after prostate surgery. You are instructed how to do the injection & you do it with the Dr. in the office the 1st time to make sure you get the dose & technique right - there are certain very specific areas you need to inject & if you don’t ‘hit’ the right spot, it won’t be successful. Also, getting the correct dose can help avoid the dreaded 4-hr erections, which can damage the penis & in some cases, prevent you from ever achieving erections again - not a pleasant thought, obviously...
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