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How do I stop masturbating?

I've masturbated 8-9 times this past two weeks after around one and a half month from it. I honestly hate it and the effects of it. It has been affecting my life in a very negative way. I really want to stop masturbating. I stopped masturbating for 6 months last year and honestly the rewards of it was amazing. But ever since then though the most break that I had from masturbating was the one and a half month break from it. At times I'll go without it for a week then ill start to masturbate a few times more in a week. Does anyone PLEASE have tips regarding to how to stop masturbating? Honestly I am begging for it. Any help would be very much appreciated
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207091 tn?1337709493
What kind of negative affects are you having from it?

Generally speaking, masturbation is normal and has some health benefits. If you're masturbating 8-9 times over 2 weeks, that's not even once a day, and shouldn't have any negative effects.

Is there something you're doing with it that you don't like, perhaps watching porn?

Again, generally speaking, a good way to not do something you don't want to do is distraction. Change your routines. If you'd normally masturbate before bed, for example, read a book or play a game on your phone. If you do it in the shower, only allow yourself a few minutes in the shower, and time yourself. Set an alarm on your phone, and get out when the alarm goes off. Reward yourself when you don't do it.

If you watch porn, block the sites on your phone or computer. Google how to do that for your specific browser or phone. If you have porn downloaded, get rid of it.

I'd like to understand why this is so negative for you so I can offer better, more specific advice.
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It messes with my cognitive abilities and focus, triggers my anxiety for a period of time (days, weeks) plus it's also prohibited in my religion. I've also felt the plus in not doing it as I've mentioned before and it always leads to bad mental health and cognitive functions. I've heard that it can be quite dangerous if you do it for a very long time since it can damage the dopamine receptors and I agree with it cause I've felt it. Before that six months period, I was doing it in RIDICULOUS numbers per day for almost every day of my life for years, so I just don't want to get in that zone again.
"it can damage the dopamine receptors " - this is not true.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3115160/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201701/no-dopamine-is-not-addictive

I'm not going to argue your religion with you, but we are a medical site, and we need to provide accurate information. Perhaps you feel better because you are doing other things than masturbating, and you don't have the guilt, but masturbation does not affect cognitive abilities or dopamine receptors.

My advice still stands. You WILL get urges - that's a normal part of being an adult with a sex drive - but just like anyone who is trying to avoid sugar or alcohol - which, in and of itself, is not bad when taken in small doses for most people, but some can not have any - find substitutions for things to do instead. Play a game on your phone, go for a run, call a friend, etc. Find what works for you. Make it neutral or a reward, not a punishment - don't use a rubber band on your wrist, for example, because at some point, you'll want to be sexual with someone, and you don't want bad associations with it.

Good luck to you. :)
thank you for your response very much appreciated
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It doesn't sound like a ton.  If you said 8 or 9 times a day?  Okay, ya, that's a bit much.  If you want to stop, then just stop.  Masturbation is normal.  For some guys, it does impede their normal sex life if they have trouble having sex with their girlfriend or boyfriend.  Masturbation is really direction self applied manipulation and actual sex can feel a little bit different. Or if you just don't want to get caught up in it and it causes you anxiety, then you can distract yourself.  If you get the urge, do something different.  You could go for a run/walk, take a shower, text a friend, snap chat with a friend, read, play a video game, etc.  Just have some go to activities to do when you get the urge and the urge will pass.  Then distract again when you get the next urge.  
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thank you for the tips very much appreciated.
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