numbness in penis due to injury

[pianoguy224]

Hello,

Seven years ago at age 23, coming back drunk from night out, I got attacked and was given a "wedgie", and while wedgies have funny connotations for some people, this wasn't funny - in fact it changed my life ever since.  I felt my nerve under my testicles in extreme pain, and basically felt like it snapped, though I was attacked while drunk so can't remember clearly.

The next day I woke up and didn't remember what happened right away (because I had been drunk), but I immediately noticed when in the bath that my penis was numb. I ran it under the cold water and I barely felt the effect. The feeling hadn't completely gone in my penis, but it was like 80+ % gone. Of course I found it difficult to get an erection, though I have to saw the feeling of numbness was horrible in its own right.

At the time, i saw several doctors about the problem, the first couple thought it was pschosomatic as far as I could tell. Then the next doctor sent me to a specialist across the country. When I went to see the specialist, he basically said "There is nothing you can do unless we cut you up, you'll just have to take Cialis". And then finally I pretty much gave up on trying to do anything about it.

So for the last seven years, I've hoped that the feeling would come back and it never did. The feeling is not completely gone, but there still is very little feeling there, like 20% of the original sensation. I'm not sure if it improved at all, at times I thought it had made improvement from when it initially happened, but I'm not sure.

I've had to depend on Cialis and Viagra, and I've never told my girlfriend on 4 years somehow. I've managed to get by by guessing the days she might want to have sex (ie rarely mondays or tuesdays and def not on period for example) and then the other days take an amount in proportion to the likeliness well have sex.  If the likeliness is low, I'll take a low dose just as a kind of insurance policy (i.e with low amount will still get an Ok but not great erection). This might sound far fetched and maybe sad, but it has worked.

So that's my story. Is there anything at all I can do to get the sensitivity back?  I hoped that the nerve would gradually heal itself but I don't know why not.  I would love it if there was some type of massage that work.
I would love to even know exactly what is damaged. If a doctor could tell me, yes I see nerve impairment in that particular section of your dorsal nerve. And best of all, if a doctor could actually "cut me up" to see the nerve that is broken, and do something to fix it.

Thanks for listening, and any advice is very welcome and appreciated.

[Myron_Long]

"I do still enjoy sex, but the feeling of sensation is lost which diminishes it somewhat.
It is similar to if you are holding hands with a girl, but you are wearing a glove"

>>>this is a bad comparison because if this was the case, you wouldn't be feeling ANY sensation during sex. You just stated you STILL enjoy sex.

"Similarly, it feels like I'm wearing about 4 thick condoms overlapping."
>>>another bad comparison. again you just stated you STILL enjoy sex.

Another thing, it's very important you say the right words to doctors because they only feed off what you're trying to tell them. I understand exactly what is the problem. Your penis can still feel the vagina stimulation but your penis is lacking the sensational feeling. When you tell the docs it feel like your penis is numb, they are going to test the nerves to see if you can feel any touch. Now, if you tell the docs that you are NOT feeling a lot of sensation from sex, that prompts for a different test. I don't know what that test is and to be honest with you, I don't think one exist.

Maybe we can psychologically rectify your issue (trick the mind/penis). Since you were so use to how sex use to feel to how it feels now, maybe that is what messes you up in the brain. The solution is forgetting how it use to feel. What if you went a good month without sex or masturbation (touching your penis yourself). And after a month, you decide to have sex (with a very thin condom or no condom at all). Do you think the level of sensitivity may have increase from then? It may have if you can't remember how it use to feel. And that's because you have nothing to compare it to so you assume this is what sex is suppose to feel like.

Bottomline: It's all psychological now. Maybe you should take a break from sex and try to start with a fresh mind. But of course you can't do that right now because you have a girlfriend. With that I propose an idea. Tell your girlfriend you always wondered if the 2 of you can go without sex for 30 whole days and wonder if the sex would BE AWESOME after the 30 days are up. Women love challenges like that.

Think about it!

[pianoguy224]

Thanks for the reply.

I do still enjoy sex, but the feeling of sensation is lost which diminishes it somewhat.
It is similar to if you are holding hands with a girl, but you are wearing a glove, i.e its just not as intimate and satisfying to touch that way.  Similarly, it feels like I'm wearing about 4 thick condoms overlapping. When it first happened, I likened it to when your hand goes numb, and you feel like shaking it to the blood rushing back in to awake it (but in this case it can't be done).
I can only feel the "basic" sensations. For some reason, I do still reach orgasm normally, its as if that the orgasmic build sensation and finally orgasm, gets sorted out by the basic feeling that is there.

At the time when I was going to doctors, they did one nerve function test, and it came out as Okay, which only made the doctor doubt me even more I'm guessing.  
The nerve function test seemed very strange though, and may have made some wrong assumptions on where the nerve damage would have been. The reason I say this is because one side of the electrical conductor was placed up my rectum, and the other side was in my arm. Why didn't they conduct directly to the penis?!

When I told the doctor(urologist) he did admit it was strange, and that is when I went across the country where I was told they would do a range of proper tests, but thats when the doctor (andrologist) said that they didn't have that equipment anymore, and that I'd basically just have to live with it.
I just think that this last doctor may have influenced by the report of the first doctor which I oversaw on his desk that seemed to make out like it was a psychosomatic problem or something.

I probably will need to tell my girlfriend, but of course I'm afraid how she'll react. And I totally agree with you that Cialis is not an aphrodisiac pill, that sex drive is provided by me alone, and the mechanics is provided by the Cialis.  Thank God that it was invented before this happened or I'd have a worse problem.

The reason I'm bringing this up in a post now (seven years on), is because sometimes it really gets to me, and I think, there MUST be something I can do.  The actual feeling of numbness still gets to me even outside of sex. Doesn't feel good to have a penis that feels not much better than a piece of rubber.

Is there anything that I can do? I was younger and naive when this happened and probably didn't ask the right questions of the doctors, and try to get them to do something. Maybe if I go back now, I can make a concerted effort to get something done.

Thanks again.

[Myron_Long]

Did you confirm with the doctor that you do have nerve damage in the penis? However, even if they do confirm that you DO NOT have nerve damage, within your mind you would still feel you lost sensitivity to touch in your penis.

Needless to say, are you still able to enjoy sex? Do you still any vaginal sensation during sex? Do you still reach an orgasm from sex? These are the important questions, not the fact you no longer feel the same that you use to feel.

As far as the doctors, they not going to cut you up just to see if there is physical damage. All they gonna do is run blood test and use different machinery on your penis to see if the nerves in your penis can still feel.

As far as the medicine, you better off telling your 4-year girlfriend the truth about what happened so you can feel more freely to use your medicine when needed. It's been 4 years, so you proved already that you can still provide great sex with your girlfriend so she should understand. However, since your girlfriend is young, she probably does not understand how the medicine really works. Make it clear to her that cialis is not an aphrodisiac pill and that the only way you get erections with the medicine is thru sexual arousal.