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Low libido

My wife and I use to make love twice a day. Sometimes up to 3 times a day. Her libido took a dive and now if I am lucky we make love ones a week. Is there something save that I can take to lower my libido I am so frustrated that I can eat bricks. Did try "spanish fly / love drops" to increase her libido to no avail. Any help!!!!!!!
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Has anything occurred during this time to increase the stress on your husband?  If so counseling could help?  Also, it may be worthwhile to have him get his testosterone levels checked.  While he is a little young, if his levels are low this would affect both his libido and energy level.  The doctors can give periodic shots or patches depending on his other health issues.  Good luck, sounds like he is fortunate to have you for his wife.
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so have you it tried it lately?
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dunappy, have you and your husband tried already advanced sex positions? why try that, it will make scream,

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Hello, sounds like m and You are in the same boat but I am a female. I have been with my husband for nearly 8 years. We had a GREAT sex life, tons of sex, I am very open minded and love trying new exciting things, our sex never got borning. For the firts 2 years it was daily if not 2-3 times per day. As time went on it did slow down but was at least 2-3 times a week and still great. I was on the birth control pill for the past 2 years and I lost my sex drive, sex was very far and few between but when we did it was amazing. This past dec. I went off the pill and I was my horny self once again and my husband was in heaven. I am approaching 34 and maybe im reaching my sexual prime but I think about sex all day and all night and crave my husband. Now here is where my problem lies, approx. 6 weeks ago my husband lost his sex drive. we have only had sex 2 times in 6 weeks. I am going mad. I have talked to him about it and he feels i am over reacting and there is no problem and I should focus so much on sex. I am at a loss here as most men complain about married life and their lack of sex, mine is the opposit. HELP.
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There are so many things that can affect a person's sex drive - especially stress. What else has changed lately? Has she started a new job or taken on extra duties? Do you spend less time with each other just talking and connecting? Did you have kids? Does she feel like she has time to sit down and recharge when she gets home? Or does she feel like she has to clean the house? Sex is rarely the cause of a problem like this; it's moreoften just a symptom. What is the cause?

If I were in your shoes, I would talk to her and emphasize how important this is to you. Ask what changes could be made to enhance this relationship for both of you.
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It surprised me that you are 27 years old female and once a week looks regular to you..  My women is 28 and we go 3 times a week..  i am not trying to criticize you .  Just wondering...
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It could be that the longer it goes without you having sex that the less you desire it too. If you have something all of the time and then go cold turkey, initially it will drive you mad but I would've thought that in the end your body will adapt to the change.

Alternatively, cold showers, thinking of something that turns you off or if you really can't control the urge then some good old healthy masturbation could be your answer.

In my opinion, sex once a week is still very regular. But then I am a woman so I probably would say that!
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