Hi. I am a 43 yo married woman, working on 17 years of mostly happy marriage. :-) Over that time, I have discovered that there is more than one way to 'skin a cat' in bed. You could finish him off orally. Or engage in mutual masturbation. Also, you can have porn playing on your TV while having sex. Not if you are a 'no porn' person, tho! :-) Just relax with him and try different things like sex toys and oils. Best to you both. - Blu
Is he on any medication? Does he masterbate on a regular basis?
Thanks so much for the advice, Blu.
Vance, I don't believe he is on any medication. Before we started dating, he did masturbate regularly.
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You and your BF kegel each other by turn......... This will give extra plasure culminating in quicker orgasm for both.Google kegel esercise to learn the method... It is a good exercise as well as good treatment to stregthen pelvic floor. It will also help you to tighten your vaginal muscle.Read more sexual literature to add something new in your sexual activities. Ask him to withdraw his genitals and keep it in only one inch for some time. Here you will be able to contract your vaginal muscle( hot spot). If you are at the right spot, sexual intercourse will be pleasant one.
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Tantric sex sounds intimidating (or best left to Sean Diddy Combs, who has been known to tweet about his 10-hour sex marathons), but taking some tips from the ancient practice sets you up for electrifying full-body orgasms that you can feel from your fingertips down to your toes. And who wouldn't want that?
1. Think Big.
Stop focusing only on what you're feeling below the belt. "Imagine all that energy running up your spine, down your arms into your hands, and up into the top of your head," says Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. "Once you learn to open yourself up, you can let more sexual energy flow through you."
It's natural to hold your breath when you're on the brink of climax, but Carrellas says you'll feel a deeper pleasure if you fully inhale and exhale. "Practice while you masturbate," she says.
3. Scream and Shout.
Or grunt or sigh. Your partner will feel appreciated, but it's not just for his enjoyment. "In tantra, there are seven different energy centers (or chakras) in the body: perineum, lower belly, upper abdomen, heart, throat, forehead, and top of the head," says Carrellas. "Making higher-pitched sounds brings your sexual energy up to these higher centers, while making lower sounds brings it down."
4. Do Your Kegels.
Squeezing and releasing the pubococcygeus muscle (the same one you use to stop the flow of urine) in a slow, deep rhythm as intercourse gets more intense will help you orgasm longer and more powerfully.
Fool body orgasm;
Do not concentrate only on your sexual part. you may start from lower end to the upper end covering the front and back portion. visualize that sex energy is moving throughout your body. There are 7 chakras(energy centers) Imagine that the energy is moving through each chakra. In this way you can have full body orgasm.