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My libido has disappeared. (Male, 18)

I have no sex drive. I never, ever get horny any more. I can get decently hard watching porn, but only with constant stimulation - if I stop touching myself for 5 seconds, I'm soft again. I used to be feverishly horny every day up until 3 months ago, which is when my libido started to gradually disappear completely.

I don't smoke, drink or do any other drugs. I eat healthy, and I'm in very good shape. I play music and hang out with friends a whole lot. Nothing in my life has really changed over the past year.

The condition is driving me crazy - I loved my sex drive, as it made me feel alive in a way that I currently don't. I used to have morning wood every day, and random, often rock-hard erections throughout. Masturbating used to feel like heaven. When I touch myself now, I feel nothing.

Please help. I am clueless as to what might be causing this.
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Hi Minster, Your problem is porn enduced ED, and your way back is to do an 8 week sabbaticl from masturbating and any sexual contact, this will reboot your body, ahter 4 weeks you should start getting your nocturnal erections back along with your morning woods, and then things should just get better, but no touching till the 8 weeks are over, things you must do, clear away any sites porn on your computer, clear out any porn downloads and throw away any discs, get a friend to instale a parent lock on porn on the computer.
When you have done the 8 weeks come back to me and tell me how your doing.
Good Luck
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You seem to have misunderstood my question. My problem isn't only that I can't get it up when I'm with a woman - it is that my entire sex drive has disappeared. Where before there was an urge to have sex with women or masturbate to porn, there is now no urge. Plus, I was probably the one of all my friends who masturbated the least to porn - once or twice a week perhaps, and not always to porn: I could just as easily use my imagination.

Now, my sex drive is gone, and it all happened in quite a short period of time. I'm still having nocturnal orgasms however.
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Hey elminster,

This is just a shot in the dark...but, a couple of things come to mind.  First, depression.  But, earlier you alluded to everyday life being fine and dandy.  So, perhaps depression is not the reason.  Have you considered getting your T-levels checked?  
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Hi Minster, just do the weeks, its free, dos'ent cos you anything, and all you have to do is give up masturbating, for the 8 weeks, if I'm wrong you can come back and tell its not worked, but if it does your free of your problem and you can get it up again, porn enduced is a big problem, but there are loads of guys out there who just wont listen, and some unlike you are married.
Please just give it a go.
Good Luck
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I was thinking it might be this, so I made an appointment with my doctor.

NOHARD: Dude, I haven't masturbated for three weeks because I have no sex drive. I'm not addicted to porn - I have no interest in it. I only ever masturbate is when I can't sleep, as an orgasm tends to help out. I never feel like doing it out of horniness.
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Hi Minster, Well your 3 weeks into the program, just keep it up and see how you get on.
Good Luck
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You're a horrible listener. Thanks for trying though, I appreciate your effort.
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Hi Elmister, The problem is that masturbating to porn can switch off some of our sexual receptors in our brains, this shuts down you sexual side, and hence your problems.
So thats why the 8 weeks.
Good Luck
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I've never been addicted to porn though. I've never really liked it. Why does that have to be the explanation? At the most, I probably masturbated once a week to porn, during my earlier teen years. I've masturbated to my own thoughts 90% of the times.

Even if I did masturbate to porn a lot, your explanation sounds like ********. I've never heard it mentioned in a serious article that pornography can shut down your sex drive - and why would it? How could it? Through means of evil magic?
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Hi Elminster, Well we must have read differant things then,its works like this when you go the have sex its your brain is telling you have already had it so it switchs off, because its carrying these sexual thoughts, so it shuts down your sexual recepors, and its not rubbish, the problem is you just look up something as we research things perhaps a lot deeper than you, then I've been reading about this stuff for over the last 45 years, and we will never get to the bottom of things.
Good Luck
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Researchers have not unraveled the particular secret regarding exactly how androgenic hormone or testosterone boosts sexual desire. It really is normal to get a male's sexual libido to slowly and gradually decline looking at the peak in the young adults along with 20s, yet sexual desire can vary widely between guys. What 1 guy may think about a minimal sex drive, an additional may not. Furthermore, sexual libido adjustments within just each and every man with time and is also afflicted with stress, rest, and possibilities with regard to sexual intercourse. For these reasons, defining what's a "normal" libido is tough. Normally, the person themself pinpoints too little sex drive as an issue. In other cases, his lover may consider it to get an issue.
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I must thank you for such a lengthy and though-out reply, SmithWood, but would you pardon me if I asked you to be more to the point? I know that there is no such thing as a generally "normal" libido, as they vary greatly on an individual basis. My question, however, was referring to the fact that MY libido isn't functioning in the way which is normal for ME: it is now virtually non-existent, as opposed to 3 months ago, when my sex drive and urge to masturbate were so strong and perpetually present that they were a bit of a nuisance.
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