Your depression may have something to do with this. Are you taking any meds? Some of them have sexual side effects. The antidepressants that is.
Have you tried going without sex for a period of time to see if it's easier to have an orgasm?
i have never been on any meds other than some ADD meds and i stopped them quickly. and i have gone with out for a year... or so... but i just masturbated so much. that was when i was younger .. around 17 or 18 ...Then again i had been masturbating a lot since i was 12///
i dont see my fiance all the time... i can only see him for couple days every month because he lives 4 hours away.. so i do go with out for atleast 2 weeks each time ... but i masturbate A lot! its like i cant help it! but then do it for so long and so many times at once i get my whole body pain... and like i said earlier i have to help myself during sex
It sounds like when you are with your boyfriend that you have your body trained to what you like, it's what you're used to. Have you tried to show your boyfriend what you like?
What happens if you go a couple of days without masturbating? I recommended trying that so it would'nt take as long when you do it the next time.
Hi Cat, First you could google natural ways out of depression, with these there are many ways for you to try, and I think your find meditation as well, its getting your life together that will hep.
OK orgasm, and orgasms, only one place to try, google dodson and ross, Dr Betty Dodson is an orgasm guru, she runs life class's for women or how to masturbate and how to orgasm, but on site your find loads to read and lots of ways to try, you can also download vids for a small fee, your find some very good art work of Bettys on site, its like all the sex question you were afraid to ask, well the answers are there.
Being a sex addict doesn't have anything to do with how you orgasm. Some women who come very easily aren't anything close to being "nymphomaniacs". I can understand how it might be frustrating to have to put a lot of effort into getting orgasms if you are aroused all the time, but what you described about how you get off is perfectly normal for a lot of women regardless of their sex drives. Needing clitoral stimulation is just a physiological fact for most females. I have been having sex for years, my sex drive is pretty strong and I've always needed clitoral stimulation as well. You don't have a "problem" per se. If you are really seeking an easier path to orgasm, it helps to experiment with different methods when playing with yourself -- vibrators, water stream, combining clit stimulation with penetration, G-spot stimulation, anything you can think of. Relax and be patient. It is a process and you will discover lots of new things about how your body responds as time goes on.