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Penis won't fit in vagina

Hey everybody, I'm on a long distance relationship and haven't had sex with my gf for about 8 months. Is it possible that my penis won't fit in her vagina like it used to? Thx
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I don’t think that would make much difference. Maybe females would care to comment - Ladies, does your vaginal opening feel ‘tighter’ when you haven’t had intercourse for a period of time? I’m thinking maybe it could just slightly, but would pretty quickly return to normal once you resume - ?? Is this assumption off-base or more or less correct?
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It might feel a little tight at first, but the vagina stretches. I mean, it's designed for a baby to come out of it. Your penis will fit.

Just go slowly, make sure she's lubricated enough - foreplay is always a good idea - and things will be fine. Just listen to her, and if she says it hurts, ask her what she needs to make it not hurt, or if she needs to stop.
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It definitely is tighter
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Just make sure she's okay. Make sure she is well-lubricated, do foreplay, and listen to her. Keep checking in with her along the way, and have fun. :)
Just gotta ask one more, we do foreplay (kissing, cunnilingus for 10-15 mins iguess) I'm pretty sure she's very very well lubricated (wet) but when i put my penis inside she still feels hurt. I'm really starting to think i suck at sexual intercourse.
Aww I'm sure you don't suck at it.

Try using your fingers and GENTLY stretch her out first. Start with one finger and then go to two, and see if that hurts her.

Pay attention to her whole body, too. She has breasts that feel good when you touch them, she might like it when you kiss her neck or her ears (this really varies from person to person).

Does she orgasm from the cunnilingus? Some women like to orgasm first before penetration - it relaxes them.

When she says it hurts, is it when you thrust? When you try to enter her?

And don't get discouraged. Just have open and honest communication, but make it fun. Don't keep asking, "Am I doing this right? Do you like this? You hate this, don't you?" Ask her to show you how she wants it, and do the same for her. Make sure it's gentle and kind, though, and not bossy and insulting.

You want to make this good for her, and that's awesome. That alone makes you better than a lot of others.

so this is how it goes the night before i go back to my city. i did a cunnilingus for her for like 15 minutes, and she's enjoying it (all that moaning and her hand pulling my hair, tbh it kind of hurts for me, and squeezing my head with her thighs). By the time i put my penis inside after those 15 minutes, i clearly feel her very well lubricated and she doesn't show any sign of hurting or stuff like that. She even seems to be enjoying it by seeing how she keeps pulling me inside her. By the time we were done and about to get cleaned up she even  walk all wobbly with a smile (i'm pretty sure that's a good smile). But after like 10 minutes post cleaned up she says that it hurts. What am i doing wrong???

I don't know if she had orgasm when i did the cunnilingus, but from my independent research some women stated that after they've had orgasm that's it. No more follow up sex cause that hurt after women climax?

pls help
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I see you talking a lot about foreplay but you have not mentioned lube at all. Get a good water based lube like KY. I have to use it too. We only have sex about once every 5 or 6 weeks and we have the same issue.
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Good point!
Absolutely. Never be afraid of the lube. It can be fun, too.
wow this is all new to me. I have questions regarding the lube:
1. is it safe to wear condom with lube? doesn't it cause it to tear?
2. is it safe to wear lube without condom?
3. i thought cunnilingus is a natural lube? i mean i did that for 15 minutes to make sure she is properly lubricated.
4. doesn't women when they get excited and horny produce natural vaginal lube?
5. sex about once every 5 or 6 weeks is normal right? i sometimes feel like this too! I mean i sometimes just wants to spend some quality time with her talking and maybe a little kiss. I don't want the sex all the time. But i'm afraid what if that makes me less of a man in her eyes?
6. And can you please elaborate on your statement "i have to use it too"? i really need some help with this things.

thanks every one, please help
1. is it safe to wear condom with lube? doesn't it cause it to tear?

Use a water based lube with a condom. Others can indeed cause it to tear.

2. is it safe to wear lube without condom?

Yes.

3. i thought cunnilingus is a natural lube? i mean i did that for 15 minutes to make sure she is properly lubricated.

It does provide lube, and it doesn't mean that you aren't doing it well, or that she isn't enjoying it. Some women naturally self-lubricate a lot, others less so, and it is not an indicator of how aroused she is. It can also vary quite a bit during different times of her cycle.


4. doesn't women when they get excited and horny produce natural vaginal lube?

See above.

Even if they produce a lot, it can still make it easier if she's "tight" and you're nervous.

5. sex about once every 5 or 6 weeks is normal right? i sometimes feel like this too! I mean i sometimes just wants to spend some quality time with her talking and maybe a little kiss. I don't want the sex all the time. But i'm afraid what if that makes me less of a man in her eyes?

There is no "normal". Some people want it a lot more than that, some people even less. This is something that you have to discuss with her, and see what you both like. You all are still finding your way, and there may be cultural differences, health concerns, etc., so don't worry about averages or normal.


6. And can you please elaborate on your statement "i have to use it too"? i really need some help with this things.

I'll let Lardog answer this, since he said it. :)
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The vagina tends to loosen during arousal, so I wouldn't worry much. If it doesn't fit, you could warm up with fingers.
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