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Questions about anal gaping

Hi everybody!

I'm a bisexual guy from Sweden who has a few questions about anal masturbation. To make it easier for you to answer my questions, I'll tell you the current situation: About a year ago, I tried anal masturbation. I did like it at the beginning but I didn't do it very often as I wasn't as into it as I am now. About half a year ago, the interest in this form of self-pleasuring began to rise and I did it more and more and for each time, I enjoyed it a little more than the last time. The last month I've been masturbating by using fingers and toys about every other day and it feels amazing (I'm masturbating more traditionally as well the days I don't play with my ***. What makes me a little worried is anal gaping. I'm very turned on both by the thought and also the feeling I get from it. The thing is, it doesn't get as open as it does in porn movies. Sure, they have sex or play with themselves often for longer periods of time for each video and I really want to come the point where my anus looks the same. The part that worries me is how far I can take it. I'm not looking for anything extreme or so but for a guy that is about 168cm tall and weighs 65-70kg, is there any specific limit to how big the diameter of an anal gape can be  on a person with those dimensions without it turning into something harmful (I want to go as far as possible with the anal gaping without harming myself in a way that  can't be easily fixed by myself)? I'm very careful when masturbating anally and I know I need to take it slow which I'm of course doing. The other question is about method: Do I just keep playing with myself or do I need to leave something in there, like a buttplug, for a little while or so?

Would be grateful for answers to these questions!
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I KNOW WHERE YOU'RE COMING FROM. I CAN'T SEEM TO MAINTAIN AN ERECTION TO HAVE SEX WITH MY WIFE LONG ENOUGH OR GET A FULL ERECTION AT TIMES TO MASTURBATE TO EJACTULATION. FOR THIS REASON I STARTED USING AN ELECTRONIC VIBRATING RABBIT VIBRATOR FOR ANAL MASTURBATION. I'VE FOUND THIS TO BE VERY PLEASURABLE WHEN I CAN'T HAVE TRADITIONAL SEX. I SUGGEST TRYING IT SOMETIME. VIBRATORS CAN BE A LITTLE EXPENSIVE BUT NOT SO MUCH AS SATISFYING YOU SEXUALLY.
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If flexibility of anal spincture is your goal, you may do periphera anal prostate massage. Google this phrase, by reading it , you will know whether it will work for you.
Another is a chinese method, where you cant rat all the four sides of anus, one by bone. This is to be done while breathing in. This increases the pressure inside which has many heath benefits.We will not find this in Googlle as we do not have proper name for this method.You will find description of this method in 100 days practice by Eric Steven Yudelove. Few pages are available in Amazon.
139792 tn?1498585650
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Read contract all the four sides of anus, one by one.
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I am completely able to get and maintain an erection for as long as I feel it needed so you're wrong when you think I practice anal masturbation because of some kind of erection issues. If that had been the case, I'd have written that as well OR I would have posted another question about such an issue.
But I thank you for your advice on trying on a rabbit-vibrator. I might buy one in the future or maybe just a normal, vibrating dildo.

Thanks for your time!
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I'm always very tight in the beginning every time I masturbate anally but after a few minutes, the sphincter gets quite flexible for me which worried me a little in the beginning but every new time I masturbate like this, it's just as tight as last time but this isn't what I was looking for. What I meant was that I want the walls inside my butt to stay to the sides for a few seconds to that if I insert a finger or two, I won't be able to feel the walls. It'd be like a tunnel that a car drives through in the essence that the car doesn't touch the walls of the tunnel. Of course I don't want it to be like this when I'm not masturbating so if it possible to achieve this, I'd love it.

Thanks for your time! :)
139792 tn?1498585650
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By these exercises you will be able to control your anus muscle and keep it a tunneil like passage. One person did get tunnel like space and he felt the pleasure of surrendering by his wife. In fact in groin area, there are 5 parts which can be exercised.Base of the penis, Penis itself, scrotum,  and all 4 parts of anus and pc muscles. They are contracted while exhaling and relaxed while exhaling.Groin area gets full blood supply.
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Perineum (small muscle between anus and base of the penis ia also an important part for exercising.While you contract perineum, it goes in and up as small inverted dome.This is one of the pleasure point and place first chakra resides.By cultivating groin muscles one can manipulate anus in any way. While exhaling one contracts all musles or one by one and while inhaling relax all muscles.(This is a corrected version over the above one..
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