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SLEEPING PROBLEM & Erectile dysfunction?

Please help! I'm 28 years old and have been masturbating frequently for as long as I remember (13 years), on average I'm guessing at least twice a day sometimes less or more. The problem I am facing over the past (8) years or so it has been very difficult to achieve an erection.  I've had weak/soft erections on a regular basis, while mastrubating.  I am a Virgin. I am worrying about my post marriage sexual relationship because of this erectile dysfunction. I'm finding it a possibility that I'll be unable to perform and I think the stress/depression is making it worse. I can't have a solid erection during masturbation.  Only occasionally in the morning waking up will I have a decent erection, and even then it seems softer/weaker than past.  I haven't had a rock hard erection for years.  I'm scared to death now that after 28 years I'm finally having sex and won't be able to enjoy it, or even perform at all.   Is this permanent?  If I stop masturbation, which I'm pretty sure I'm capable of doing, for a period of time and then lessen masturbation in the future.. will the chemicals balance themselves out again and I can achieve a firm erection?  or is this permanent damage that has been done that will require some kind of drugs? I am having sleeping problem. I consulted a psychiatrist and had he given me (Trikka or Anxit), sleeping tablets. I could sleep only while I take this medicine. So I stopped taking this and consulted a psychologist. He told me that I am having avoidant personality disorders, which have started in my childhood days. Is this the cause for anxiety or sleeplessness or erectile dysfunction? Whom should I consult; treatment and what are the treatment duration for this? If so, then I have to search an eminent psychologist. If I get good sleep, then erectile dysfunction is okay?
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Any type of rigorous physical activity (sexual or otherwise) can desensitize the nerves in the body part that is undergoing the activity. Why do you think porn stars retire so early? You need to control your mastrubation. Cut back from twice or more a day to once a day for a week, then cut back again the following week to every other day, and so on until you are only mastrubating once a week. See if that helps your ED and/or sleep problems. As for the worrying about relationships in the future, you need to relax. All of that stress is not good for anyone. If you cut back on the mastrubation now, only time will tell if it helps reverse the insensitivity.
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Was your masturbation to Internet porn? If it was then it's likely that you have desensitzed your brain- not your penis.

Internet porn can become an addiction, and with all addictions the brain changes, or adapts. It does not matter if the addiction is to a substance or whether it is a behavioral addiction, the same brain changes result.

Today's internet porn is nothing at all like our ancestors ever encountered, with the constant novelty and genres of extreme porn. Unlike yesterday's Playboy, Internet porn overstimulates the brain structures responsible for libido, erections, and addiction.

Brain changes include a drop in dopamine receptors in the reward circuitry. Reducing the amount of dopamine receptors decreases your pleasure response to "normal" stimuli. In other words, real-life sexual partners and previous porn won't excite your brain enough to get your penis going. Turning on dopamine receptors is how you get turned on.

Here are two excellent presentations, by a science teacher, on the effects of pornography on the brain. They are non-religious, non-judgmental, and science based.

Erectile Dysfunction and Porn:

Your Brain on Porn - Porn Addiction:

Here are two articles on porn-induced ED

“How I Recovered from Porn-related Erectile Dysfunction”

As Porn Goes Up, Performance Goes Down?

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