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Sex hurts after short periods of sexual inactivity
Hi,
I have been sexually active for almost 3 years now. In the beginning, it took me close to 2 months of regular sexual activity to come to a position where I could have painless and enjoyable sex. I was extremely tight and sex used to hurt immensely. However with time I was able to have enjoyable sex. Currently, my partner and I live in different cities, which means that I meet him for only a weekend every month. When we meet and we try to have sex it hurts very much. It is like it was in the very beginning and I feel like a virgin again. He tells me that I am too tight and asks me to relax. But I am unable to relax because I anticipate the pain and tense up. This is causing a lot of frustration for both of us and while we desire each other a lot we are unable to do much about it as it hurts very much. I have been doing some research and everywhere I read, vaginal tightness is seen as Vaginismus. However considering I was having totally painfree and very enjoyable sex previously and since problems have started only now that I am in a long distance, I dont think its Vaginismus.
What should I do to make sure that it doesnt hurt? I am sure if we are in the same city and sexual activity is fairly regular, these problems wont happen. But how do I prevent my vagina from tightening and how do I save myself from painful sex every month?
Please help!!
I have been sexually active for almost 3 years now. In the beginning, it took me close to 2 months of regular sexual activity to come to a position where I could have painless and enjoyable sex. I was extremely tight and sex used to hurt immensely. However with time I was able to have enjoyable sex. Currently, my partner and I live in different cities, which means that I meet him for only a weekend every month. When we meet and we try to have sex it hurts very much. It is like it was in the very beginning and I feel like a virgin again. He tells me that I am too tight and asks me to relax. But I am unable to relax because I anticipate the pain and tense up. This is causing a lot of frustration for both of us and while we desire each other a lot we are unable to do much about it as it hurts very much. I have been doing some research and everywhere I read, vaginal tightness is seen as Vaginismus. However considering I was having totally painfree and very enjoyable sex previously and since problems have started only now that I am in a long distance, I dont think its Vaginismus.
What should I do to make sure that it doesnt hurt? I am sure if we are in the same city and sexual activity is fairly regular, these problems wont happen. But how do I prevent my vagina from tightening and how do I save myself from painful sex every month?
Please help!!
You could try (virgin). Organic coconut oil.. We use it and it does help.. It's totally natural smells good and if you google it is probably the perfect oil for your skin even inside.. Just use a little on the tip at first and many be some on the shaft if it is quite long but not too much.
Hope that helps... Also try slowly. At first... There is no rush to this and no need for you to feel pain if you relax and take all the time you need.
Good luck!..
Hope that helps... Also try slowly. At first... There is no rush to this and no need for you to feel pain if you relax and take all the time you need.
Good luck!..
It hurts at the point of entry. It feels like I am being ripped open. Once its in its ok. But the friction at the entry point can be really painful.
This may be secondary vaginismus to pain anticipation. Or then it is some other form of dyspareunia. At what precise stage during penetration does it start to hurt please?
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