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bleeding after sexual assault?
I hate asking this, but I'm getting really scared. I'm 20 years old, and two days ago I was sexually abused by my ex boyfriend. I am a virgin, and I didn't get fully raped, but he put a gun to my head and made me do a lot of horrible things. I don't really want to go into details unless it's necessary, and I refuse to tell anyone. I feel like it's my own fault for still trying to be friends with him. I knew he had anger problems. But that's not why I'm posting this.
I'm scared because I've been bleeding just a little for the past two days since it happened. My stomach hurts, but I'm still 2 weeks away from my period. So it can't be that. I am taking birth control pills, but just for cramps and acne. So I don't always remember to take it, but I usually do. Is there any chance that I might be pregnant or have some kind of STD? If so, I'll probably still not tell anyone. I'll just whither away and die in my room. You have no idea what this has done to me. I'm a virgin and a Christian, and I never wanted this to happen. I'm so scared.
Is it normal to bleed after getting sexually assaulted? Will I be fine in a few days, or do I have some sort of fatal internal bleeding?? I might eventually get over the emotional pain, but I don't want any physical problems to go along with it. I'm a good person, and I don't want anything worse to come from this. I just want to go on with my life and pretend it didn't happen.
I'm scared because I've been bleeding just a little for the past two days since it happened. My stomach hurts, but I'm still 2 weeks away from my period. So it can't be that. I am taking birth control pills, but just for cramps and acne. So I don't always remember to take it, but I usually do. Is there any chance that I might be pregnant or have some kind of STD? If so, I'll probably still not tell anyone. I'll just whither away and die in my room. You have no idea what this has done to me. I'm a virgin and a Christian, and I never wanted this to happen. I'm so scared.
Is it normal to bleed after getting sexually assaulted? Will I be fine in a few days, or do I have some sort of fatal internal bleeding?? I might eventually get over the emotional pain, but I don't want any physical problems to go along with it. I'm a good person, and I don't want anything worse to come from this. I just want to go on with my life and pretend it didn't happen.
You got some really great responses over on the Abuse forum. You need to do what all the people over there said. Get yourself to a doctor and REPORT YOUR EX. He is going to do it again, either to you or to someone else.
Being attacked by somebody is not a friendship and you are to no longer try to be his friend. He is not a friend to you. He is a violent sexual predator. That is all.
Using a gun to force you to do anything, much less sexual, against your will demonstrates a very dangerous guy. You are likely not his first victim and you won't be his last victim. I know this is very tough and raw for you right now, but you have got to report this perpetrator to the police and press charges against him. He needs to be taken out of society because he feels no compassion or sympathy or shame or remorse for his behavior toward others. He doesn't register mentally what pain and torture he is inflicting on his victims. He will only need to up-the-anti in the future to satisfy his sick desires. Eventually a girl will be killed. So, you need to go to the police NOW. Take a girlfriend with you if you prefer. But go regardless. Get this thug behind bars where he belongs. You will be interviewed gently, compassionately, carefully, and as thoroughly as possible so they can make a good arrest and procecution. You deserve no less than the best, gal.
See a gyn doctor NOW. You need to be frank with him that you were attacked, raped, and you are afraid you could have STD's and possible pregnancy. The doctor will not judge you for this. He/she will give you very careful, gentle attention. He will know everything he needs to do to make sure you are not physically harmed by this. If you are pregnant, then you and he can decide what steps you want to take from there. You must take care of yourself physically, first. Stay healthy.
Emotionally, this attack will never leave you. It will forever be a memory. But you must not give that perpetrator the power over you to keep you from getting therapy. You need this help now, you deserve it, and you cannot afford to let this "secret" fester within you a day longer. Take back your power and sling it in that guys face. Do not let yourself be his victim any longer. He chose to rob a bank. Your bank. Now he should pay the consequenses of being taken out of society. This is where he should be. And you need to feel safe, strong, in control of your own life. With therapy you can achieve this and the sooner the better.
God wraps his arms around you right now. He sorrows for your suffering. He loves you. You are his child and he is there to carry you whenever you feel you cannot walk. You did nothing wrong and this attack was definitely not your fault. Christians worldwide have terrible things happen to them. But God doesn't blame them and turn away his love. He is beside you, within you, always. Talk to God, take his strength within you and you can fight back on this and win...all the way.
Kathy
Using a gun to force you to do anything, much less sexual, against your will demonstrates a very dangerous guy. You are likely not his first victim and you won't be his last victim. I know this is very tough and raw for you right now, but you have got to report this perpetrator to the police and press charges against him. He needs to be taken out of society because he feels no compassion or sympathy or shame or remorse for his behavior toward others. He doesn't register mentally what pain and torture he is inflicting on his victims. He will only need to up-the-anti in the future to satisfy his sick desires. Eventually a girl will be killed. So, you need to go to the police NOW. Take a girlfriend with you if you prefer. But go regardless. Get this thug behind bars where he belongs. You will be interviewed gently, compassionately, carefully, and as thoroughly as possible so they can make a good arrest and procecution. You deserve no less than the best, gal.
See a gyn doctor NOW. You need to be frank with him that you were attacked, raped, and you are afraid you could have STD's and possible pregnancy. The doctor will not judge you for this. He/she will give you very careful, gentle attention. He will know everything he needs to do to make sure you are not physically harmed by this. If you are pregnant, then you and he can decide what steps you want to take from there. You must take care of yourself physically, first. Stay healthy.
Emotionally, this attack will never leave you. It will forever be a memory. But you must not give that perpetrator the power over you to keep you from getting therapy. You need this help now, you deserve it, and you cannot afford to let this "secret" fester within you a day longer. Take back your power and sling it in that guys face. Do not let yourself be his victim any longer. He chose to rob a bank. Your bank. Now he should pay the consequenses of being taken out of society. This is where he should be. And you need to feel safe, strong, in control of your own life. With therapy you can achieve this and the sooner the better.
God wraps his arms around you right now. He sorrows for your suffering. He loves you. You are his child and he is there to carry you whenever you feel you cannot walk. You did nothing wrong and this attack was definitely not your fault. Christians worldwide have terrible things happen to them. But God doesn't blame them and turn away his love. He is beside you, within you, always. Talk to God, take his strength within you and you can fight back on this and win...all the way.
Kathy
Like 50 min ago I was sexually assaulted or almost raped i dont know Im only 14 years old. I came home and I was bleeding. I don;t know what this means and I;m really scared because I dont think I lost my virginity if he just touched me a lot...pls I need help.
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That happened to me about 9 days before you i was 14 at the time did you ever find out why you bled
Most likely the bleeding is due to him puncturing or ripping your hymen, don't worry, it should stop within the next 24 hours, but if it doesn't it might mean that he internally cut you somewhere and you need to see a doctor immediately! Tell a trusted adult, preferably your parents, since they will know what legal measures to take after that point, and stay away from the guy that did it.
Hi there anonynous girl,
I agree with with mjbrown that you need to seek help. i know its difficult, youve been through a very traumatic experience, but it will be best if you get things checked over to make sure everything is ok down there. you family doesnt have to know about that. when your ready though, i think you should press charges, because, like mjbrown said, your ex belongs in jail.
It will be hard but it will feel so much better after youve told someone the truth. dont let the likes of that man make you afraid to speak up, he wants power..thats why men usually sexually assualt someone..its because they love being domineering....dont let him have that power, dont give him that satisfaction.
And no way is it your fault, you were being friends with him because you are a good person and seeing he good side of him. Find your inner strength, its in there somewhere, and tell someone about this. The first step is seeing a medical professional about the bleeding, even if it stops i would still get checked out to make sure nothing else is happening.
Good luck and if ever you need to talk privately then just send me a private message.
I agree with with mjbrown that you need to seek help. i know its difficult, youve been through a very traumatic experience, but it will be best if you get things checked over to make sure everything is ok down there. you family doesnt have to know about that. when your ready though, i think you should press charges, because, like mjbrown said, your ex belongs in jail.
It will be hard but it will feel so much better after youve told someone the truth. dont let the likes of that man make you afraid to speak up, he wants power..thats why men usually sexually assualt someone..its because they love being domineering....dont let him have that power, dont give him that satisfaction.
And no way is it your fault, you were being friends with him because you are a good person and seeing he good side of him. Find your inner strength, its in there somewhere, and tell someone about this. The first step is seeing a medical professional about the bleeding, even if it stops i would still get checked out to make sure nothing else is happening.
Good luck and if ever you need to talk privately then just send me a private message.
Thank you so much for the encouragement. It really lifted a burden off me to post this, but I'm sorry to say that I don't think I could possibly tell anyone what happened...not even a doctor. I can't forgive myself, and my family and friends warned me to stay away from him. They would all judge me and I don't blame them.
Honestly, I'm extremely traumatized by what happened. I'm in a constant daze, can't focus when people say simple things to me, cry for hours at a time, I cut my wrist up (don't worry, I don't have the guts to kill myself), and I can't stop trembling all over when I'm around people. It's terrifying, but I would never tell anyone the truth. I'll wait and see if the bleeding stops. I'll take it one step at a time.
Thank you for your advice and kind words. It means so much to me right now...you have no idea.
Honestly, I'm extremely traumatized by what happened. I'm in a constant daze, can't focus when people say simple things to me, cry for hours at a time, I cut my wrist up (don't worry, I don't have the guts to kill myself), and I can't stop trembling all over when I'm around people. It's terrifying, but I would never tell anyone the truth. I'll wait and see if the bleeding stops. I'll take it one step at a time.
Thank you for your advice and kind words. It means so much to me right now...you have no idea.
I am sure there is nothing more that you want than to go on with your life and pretend that it didn't happen. But it did happen, and you need help. You have just gone through a traumatic event where your life was in danger. You have been violated, and this is not something you will easily get over by yourself. You need to first get medical attention to make sure that everything is okay. Go to your nearest emergency room. There are people there who are specially trained to assist rape and sexual assault victims. You will get the care you need and everything will be done discretely. You must also consider getting the police involved. Speaking with a social worker at the hospital will help you determine the best way to go about this. It is important that you have someone who is supportive and understanding that you can speak to on a regular basis to cope with this trauma you experienced. Post traumatic stress disorder is a common occurrence after an experience that you went through. I understand that you don't want to talk about what happened, and self-blame is very common among rape victims (it actually helps give you a sense of control over the situation: "if only I didn't do _____, this wouldn't have happened." But the fact is, you had a gun held to your head. You had no control over the situation, and you did what you had to to save your life. You did not ask for this, and you are in no way responsible for it. You are the victim of a serious crime, and this is nothing that you should feel ashamed about. Your ex-boyfriend belongs in jail. But for now, you need to seek help.
All the best... and keep us posted.
All the best... and keep us posted.
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