boyfriend problem,plz help.

[daisy700]

hi,
  
i dont know whats wrong wid my boyfriend but whenver i turn out to his home,
he wants me to be naked always when i m with him.i do go sometimes and leave at his apartment for days.
but the thing is,he is good at everything,at bed too,but he doesnt want me to be in clothes,rather he will b wearing.
only when someone comes to house,he has a gown for me.
once i was sleeping around 10 in the morning and he had invited the electrician in,and i had to
face the embarrassment.
i have talked to him but he sais he likes me & my body much.since i love him very much,i obey him but do shout at him a
couple of times.i have no problem remaining naked at his home but it has become irritating now.i m much confused
and i dont understand what he wants from me,please suggest what should i do[i love him very much & i cant ditch him]??

[Westguy1003]

Yeah we're both getting a weird vibe off the behavior

[PromisedLand]

I think that's what I was feeling Westguy


Jim

[Westguy1003]

I know I made a little joke up there but I agree with gizmo.. there's something more to this then him just liking you naked. I can't say exactly what it is either but the behavior is a little off. It's like part aggression part controlling part insecure part obsessve, etc.. I don't know exactly what it is but either way if you're not comfortable with it you shouldn't feel as though you have to do it.

[PromisedLand]

I'm a male who enjoys going without clothes, and used to spend all my free time in my apartment naked.  I frequented a nude beach on weekends and just got to wear I hated clothes..I enjoyed the free feeling.  If I knew someone was coming over I'd of course get dressed, or if somone stopped by unexpectedly I'd keep a robe nearby to toss on..if my girlfriend, who wasn't as comfortable with my proclivities as I were over, I'd get dressed...I certainly wouldn't demand that she or anybody for that matter be forced to be naked.  Something bothers me about your situation but I can't put my finger on it (pardon me)...

I no longer practice nudity around the house, ,now being married with daughters who were abused by their "father" and I don't wish to bring any reminders, and it's something I've more or less grown out of.  

But I think your friend might have a minor problem though as I say, I can't quite say what it is.

Jim

[Clarise73]

What you are stating very obviously is that he likes your body over you. Otherwise he would put your feelings first. Can you accept him for who he really is.  Cause the thing is.... you can't change someone. My suggestion is to create rules and boundaries talk with him about rules. If he breaks the rules you know his true self.

[Westguy1003]

Your boyfriend sounds like a real piece of work. Trust me there's a whole lot more to this then "he just likes me naked." Personally? I'd run as far away as I could from him before your heads winds up in a glass case on his desk. He's a weirdo.

[SeriousSam]

Two options.  Therapy or redirection.  Maybe if you redirect him a little bit?  I'll try to give some thoughts to this.  Maybe going to the beach with him would sate this insecurity enough to make it so that the behavior doesn't surface so much at home?

[daisy700]

what shall i do,i love him very much

[SeriousSam]

Careful, sounds like he has a bit of a voyeur/exhibitionist streak, where the body he wants to exhibit is yours.  At the heart of this is probably a subconscious insecurity where he gets off/validates himself by showing off your wares to other people,

[daisy700]

thanks to all

[onlinemaca]

he is obsessed on your body i guess. tell him what you feel if he really loves you the he will understand that. but avoid shouting on him it will only create problem.