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hypersensitivity due to sexual assault

i’m gonna graphically talk about my sexual assault so if that bothers you don’t read this.

i was in a sexually abusive relationship for a year. One of his favorite things to do to me was make me orgasm by performing oral sex on me. After I would orgasm he would pin me down and continue to stimulate my clit. It was very uncomfortable, painful, and non consensual. He did this to me frequently. Sometimes he would do it to me multiple times in a day.

Several months into our relationship I became unable to orgasm. It’s been almost two years since I orgasmed. Penetrative sex has never been enough to make me orgasm. And every time I get close to clitoral orgasm I become so over sensitive that I feel like I’m going to vomit and have to stop.

I’ve had partners attempt oral and I’ve attempted several forms of masturbation (vibrator, fingers, over pants stimulation) and all end with me feeling nauseous due to my clits hypersensitivity. The only thing that’s almost worked is very gentle over the pants stimulation, and even then it was too sensitive for me to climax.

I’m scared to go to a OBGYN due to what’s happened to me, but I really want to be able to enjoy sex again. I’ve looked online for other people with similar stories but haven’t been able to find any. My friend and I have talked about it and she said he could have done some permanent damage to my clit by over stimulating it like that, but I haven’t been able to find anything online to back that up.

Sorry for rambling.
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I'm so sorry this happened to you.

If you haven't before, please consider getting counseling. Contact RAINN - https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline - 800.656.HOPE (4673). They will connect you with a Rape Crisis Center in your area. Assuming you are over 18, they will not make you report it if you do not want to. (If you are under 18, remain anonymous.)

That said, do you think you could go to the gyno if your friend goes with you and holds your hand? It would be a good idea to rule out any nerve damage at the same time you are getting counseling. Even if it wasn't from over-stimulating it over and over, perhaps there was trauma at one point that caused some injury.

It may be purely an emotional reaction, too. Even doing it to yourself may be bringing back memories, or you may be feeling really anxious that you can't orgasm, causing a cycle of anxiety/pressure/no orgasm.

It could also be a combination of some really irritated/sensitive/damaged nerves and PTSD or an emotional reaction as well, so talk to your doctor, and a counselor. You deserve to approach this from all angles, and deserve to have the happiest, healthiest, safest sex life you can.

If you can get to a gyno, let us know what happens. Maybe someone at your local rape crisis center can refer you to one who is sensitive with assault trauma.

Best to you.

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The same thing happened to me just once though on a one night stand, my clitoris is now quite sore and very sensitive and don't want to touch it I'm scared it has been damaged also.
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How long has it been sore? Is it still sore? If it is, you may want to see a doctor and make sure there aren't any cuts or anything.

I'm sorry this happened. Don't hesitate to contact RAINN - - https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline - 800.656.HOPE (4673). Your emotional healing is as important as your physical healing.

Best to you. Let us know if you go to the doctor.

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