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partner doesn't ejaculate
I have been dating a guy for 2 months, I know its not a long time, but we just hit it off since the very first day we saw each other. We pretty much behave as if we were a couple, we don't date anyone outside, I would actually say he is my boyfriend but he has not made it official (he says it takes him a long time to be 100% sure and make it official, meanwhile he acts like it is official). Before me, he has only had one sexual partner, whom he had sex with only once, so pretty much he was almost a virgin when I got him. We can only see each other on the weekends due to distance and work, so he sleeps over every weekend (he even has a pillow he calls his and a side of the bed thats his). Our sex life is very passionate, he is really good but he never EVER ejaculates, not with me, not with the other girl he had sex with before, he says he only ejaculates if he masturbates, but he can't do it in front of me! He says its nothing wrong that I am doing, that its him not me, also that its not the same to masturbate by himself than to do it in front of me, or me doing it for him. I am starting to get really frustrated, and I really want this relation to work, he is a wonderful man, treats me like a princess and is very supportive. What can I do?!?!??
Peggy: thank you very much for commenting back. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe I don't believe in marriage? maybe I'm not religious, or maybe I don't believe I should pay 50 dollars to a court so I can call someone mine (whom already is) and then have sex...though waiting is a very good idea, its kinda late for my relationship to wait, I'm asking what should I do, not what should I have done.
Daslicht: after reading what you wrote I realized I probably put a lot of pressure on him, since I have mention the issue the last couple times we've had sex, and he did seem worried about it, as in not worried for him, but for the fact that I was getting frustrated. I think I'll just leave the issue alone for some time and see what happens, hopefully I didn't mess up big time by questioning him about it. thnx for the advice!!
Daslicht: after reading what you wrote I realized I probably put a lot of pressure on him, since I have mention the issue the last couple times we've had sex, and he did seem worried about it, as in not worried for him, but for the fact that I was getting frustrated. I think I'll just leave the issue alone for some time and see what happens, hopefully I didn't mess up big time by questioning him about it. thnx for the advice!!
Honey, his problem is lack of experience. Orgasm is very personal and hard to share with someone, and it seems he hasn't had enough experience to get over that. Things like that you have to understand and be patient with, don't make it a problem. One of my friends has been with her boyfriend for almost two years and she almost never has sex naked because she is shy to show her body (even though her body is rockin'). My other friend (her boyfriend) finds it frustrating but he understands. If you really like this guy, with time he will come to the point where he can let loose, but you have to help him first by not making it into a problem and encouraging him with positive remarks during sex and foreplay.Give time time.
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