When a mans have an erection in his underwear. that is fine... However, fluids will start to build if you have an erection for a good while. When the penis starts to go down, the pre-come starts to rise up to the tip of the penis which causes some to seap out and put a stain on the underwear.
So bottomline, your husband is getting an erection but we don't know what's causing it. It could be his imagination going, he could masturbating during the day (on the job), or left-over come from having real sex (but let's not assume this)...
So yes, something or someone is turning him on...
If he wants you to prove it to him, then prove it to him. Save some of his dirty underwear, and show him what you're seeing. There may be a very logical explanation as to what it is.
I'm going to disagree with Myron_Long. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is being turned on. Please don't automatically jump to that conclusion. It's only going to cause strife in your relationship if you start accusing him of cheating on you.
Does he have a history of cheating on you? Has he done something else to make you suspect that he's cheating on you, besides his dirty underwear? Please COMMUNICATE with your husband before you go and accuse him of cheating.
And yes... it could be happening without him knowing it.
I said "SOMETHING or SOMEONE is turning him on"---- It could just be his imagination thru out the day or he really could be jerking off in the restroom. It happens...
poor bloke probably needs sex, his fluids are leaking out, are you depriving him of sex, men cannot help this happening so I wouldnt worry.
I had a similar situation but I talked to my husband about it we haven't had sex because of me being on a medical leave and I'm restricted due to doctors orders but I notice his penis gets hard looking at me so I know he has build up but it still seems strange cause this is my 1st time seeing It..I didnt point any fingers at him but I'm sure going to watch his pattern,so far he's been faithful as I know of but you just can't put nothing pass anyone at end of the day
Why are there so many comments assuming it's semen? This woman is no doctor, the guy could have a UTI for all we know. This sort of thing isn't uncommon, it's not a big deal, and the immediate assumption that something may be going on sexually tells me you have trust issues. When all your underwear comes out clean let us know.
If has been a while sence he has had sex, as little as two days, his prostate has been filling up with ejaculate. In saying that, if he has a hard or large bowel movement, this is enough to push out ejaculate into the ureathea, and if he does nott urinate after the bowel movement it will seep out into his underwear. Seeping out just lifting something heavy, bending, coughin, etc.
Could he be watching porn and masterbating and be afraid to tell u or embarrassed.. dont make a big deal id just investigate on the down low. Check his phone, fn browsing history. Has his schedule.or demeaner changed. Is he working odd hours or later nights.. many ways to tell whats going on bit may be nothing. If u two are close u will know if hes chesting even if u dont want to admit it to yourself. U even could watch car mileage..but u shoukd be able to tell by the look in his eye and if hw can look i in the eyes when u bring it up.
My partner goes to his exs house a few times a week to see the kids. He has come home a few times with fresh marks. He swears he wouldn't cheat on me if he wanted to be with her he would of years ago ..... the marks happened once before ..... we have been in an off relationship then.
He has had a vasectomy. I have shown him the marks and asked straight up if anything was going on he says no and he doesn't know why there is marks. He is the one that told me that he weeps sometimes when he gets turned on yet now he doesn't know why he has marks. Is it just porn ??
Anyway before he ended up saying that sometimes he pulls over on the way home and masturbates. Thats fine. I just am not 100% sure he isn't fooling around with his ex while he is there. Last time there was more evidence to say he had been with someone else. This time its hard to tell. He says I never have to worry about him cheating he loves me to much to do that. Is he just wanking or getting excited or fooling around with his kis mum ??
True find out for sure if it is semen, then find out why, true that some people after masterbating don't want to admit that is what they were doing due to embarrassment, if it is just porn and masterbating as long as it is adult porn it is probably a fase and will pass, if it still bothers you ask him to include you in it, phone sex or let him take a video of you to watch while he is alone in bathroom away from home
My partner after 7 months back together finaly admited to looking at porn at work and Im guess anywhere he can. I also think if he is horny he can probably wack one out in the bathroom when he visits the kids etc. He says he hasn't and wouldn't cheat and I actually belive him, so until I have proof of it being with another person I have to assume the arousal is coming from porn or thinking and talking. The difference is if its smeared on the front I would say hes been with someone. If its white smeared all over the pants he may have cheated but if its more like snail trail marks lower in the pants than Id say he hasn't been erect just aroused.
Semen comes out from either jacking off or having a hard on that went back to limp. Something is giving him a hard on. It could be a number of reasons .
My husband has dribble in his briefs after every trip. Sometimes more dribble than a few dots I don’t really care. I suspect masturbation (duh), but he does have a girl crush on a younger gal at work too, so who knows and who cares. He can fantasize all he wants. I’ve learned that there’s nothing I can do about it, so I now have my own personal fantasies and TBH it’s quite exhilarating and freeing to imagine whoever I want. It definitely keeps our sex life alive because he certainly isn’t the eye candy he once was either!! What’s good for the goose is amazing for the gander! Get your own fantasy and rock his world. (And your own!!!)
My partner seems to be able to get aroused without a full erection. When we sleep together the marks will end up being higher in the pants because he was fully erect. The days he has had other marks they have been lower in the pants. Still something other than porn must be arousing him. I am not sure what it is but I know if there was smears on the front or alot of white and sort of crusty like stuff on the inside then I would be beleive he had been with someone. I am worried he could cheat and clean himself well in the bathroom but he says he hasn’t and wouldn’t cheat. My gut is confused. Hope you have cleared your mind on this issue. I still haven’t.
I have the same thing happening with the white marks on my partners underwear we havnt had sex for 5 days and as soon as he’s back at work there are white marks I have a feeling he is cheating he says he not and that he hasn’t been aroused but something does not add up . Is mine cheating ?
Spots on husband under wear
U need to take ur husband to a Urologist . he maybe having problems comin. He maybe getting prostate. You need to check to see if he's balls are getting inlarged. There are alot of complications as we get older. 38 and higher need to see a gyn.. For woman or men and Urologist for both, hope u feel better
It's called pearly penile papules. It's a genetic thing the men get from they're dad, grandfather, Uncle ect... They are 100% harmless, and only esthetic. If they bother you or him, he can have them Lazered off. But they are nothing to worry about at all. Just let him know you understand what it is and go on with your life. You contract acting from him, think of it as warts kind of, they're just there and nothing you can do about it, as long as your comfortable going down on his **** with them visible, you make him feel not so insecure and your love life won't be in any, sorry if it was, in any Jeaopardy. I promise they are nothing to worry about. I've got them to, and guess what... I've never ever had it be a problem if come up during sex. Good luck to you. If you have insurance though, they will freeze or burn them off for him, so when your giving him skull, it's smooth as a baby's but.
The answer can be taken much seriously or ignored.
As a man and husband as well I am saying this. Every men have their own fantasies. Some men have on their wives also like me. Even her voice sometimes sexually arouses me. Some times her thought of lying with me in our living room is enough for me to have an arousal. At that time penis will start to tender and then erect. It's not necessary to ejaculate ev everytime i become aroused. Bt that can cause the internal process to start. So little lubrication will happen automatically even without our knowledge. At times a small portion of semen may be ejected. It's a natural thing. Ask your husband of whether he has the habit of viewing porn videos or having any sort of fantasies like me. You may get some wonderful answers worth satisfying which you could have never possibly thought of.
Same here. I am in sales and recently got promoted so I travel a lot. On my live in bf’s underwear are semen smudges down lower and on the side of the opening. I asked him about it and he went unglued that I don’t trust him and am always suspicious. I was thinking he was master bating at work but can’t even have a conversation with him. I don’t think he is cheating on me