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I love sex and want sex I want to make love for hours but my husband don't want to.what do I do ???? I really want to try yomi massage and tantric massage
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can anyone give me advice
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If you want sex with your husband, are you both willing to try marital counseling? It sounds like there's quite a difference in sex drives.

Are you thinking of going outside the marriage? I'm not judging you, but really think about that before you do, if indeed that's what you're thinking, unless you and he have already discussed an open marriage or polyamory, and you are both 100% on board with that.

Different sexual things are awesome, but I think you have to figure out your marriage first. That's my advice.
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Auntiejessi has given some very good advice. Also, what does your husband say when you tell him you want sex? Is he just not interested? Is there a possibility he could be having an affair? I hope that’s not the case, but some guys could be ‘getting it’ elsewhere.

There’s also the possibility of pornography addiction - some guys are getting off to Porn & then are not interested in sex with their wife, which is obviously a sad situation. Or some guys just have a lower sex drive, as auntiejessi suggested. If he’s a bit older (over 40) he could be suffering from low-T which could cause a lack of interest in sex.

There’s also the possibility he just needs smthg new - some new, different sexual position or smthg to spice things up - sometimes the ‘same old, same old’ can become routine or boring. You sound like the adventurous type, so maybe you’re open to trying smthg new - ??

So I would talk to him frankly first - try to find out what’s going on with him, what he’s feeling, etc., and try to do it in as ‘open’ & non-accusatory way as possible. You can start by saying ‘ Honey, I really love & enjoy sex with you, but I can see that lately you don’t seem interested. Is there smthg going on? Are you stressed from your job, or maybe you’re just not feeling much like having sex. If it’s that, let’s talk to the Dr., maybe there’s a physical issue’ - etc.

If talking it out doesn’t seem to help, then definitely think about getting some marital counseling & make sure the counselor is comfortable with & has experience dealing with the sexual aspects of marriage.

Good luck to you - please check back in & let us know how things are going. We wish you well...
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yes thank you I ask him for sex and these are his reason which are many and never consistent. Im tired, I dont want it with you , I dont love you, its hot , he to fat, he would rather have a wank so lots of reasons the list is endless .I have ask about an affair and he does get very defence argues with me about it he's not a talker alway kicks of . He's actually away now with the boys never rings me or keeps in touch he had now finished with me because I ask him things and he dont like it what can I do iv had enough. I do not want to be the one to leave the marriage. We have s 7 year old girl as well .?????
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